Happy New Year to each and every one of you.
Well, you probably made some resolutions or at least resolved to make some changes. Now that we’ve gone halfway through January, how is that coming for you?
Most likely, you’ve reached the conclusion that it isn’t going as smoothly as you had hoped. It is important to realize that the road from one point to another isn’t always straight. We usually find obstacles that we must circumnavigate. Even if we have the ability and capability of accomplishing our goal, we are going to find ourselves having to adapt to the demands of our environment and the changes in our circumstances.
Success is most often achieved when you realize and accept that as circumstances and situations change and as obstacles arise, you must sometimes revise and re-think your goals and resolutions. It is also so important to realize that it isn’t a failure to make changes, sometimes it is the only logical and intelligent course of action.
If you were driving on a road and you found a huge boulder in the middle of the road blocking you from continuing straight on, would you keep running your car into that boulder over and over again, hoping that it will eventually just break apart and let you through? Not if you are sane. No, you would go around it. It was Einstein who wrote the definition of insanity is: “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. I know I’ve done this, but there comes a point in time when it is important to recognize that this is exactly what you are doing. Just because we wish someone or something is what we want them to be, doesn’t make it so.
Too often we allow ourselves to become overly vested in the goal or the resolution regardless of changing circumstances. We start to make everything about THE GOAL, rather than about living our life. So, if you’ve discovered that you might have to “revise” a resolution or two, take heart, you’re just using your intelligence, living your life and you’ve learned not to make everything about THE GOAL and only the goal.
On the other hand, if you’ve found that you are not ever reaching your goals or accomplishing your resolutions and you have recognized that this is old, negative and repeating behavior or thinking that is holding you back, I have a thought that I’d like you to ponder a bit.
Anyone familiar with exercise, weight training, athletic competition or pretty much any sport is familiar with the practice of using visualization to increase the effectiveness of the workout and to help then reach a goal. Visual imagery is a fundamental aspect of any yoga, stretching or weight training. Visualization has become an accepted and integral part of any physical training or activity. It allows the participant to go faster, stretch further, lift more, reach higher or whatever it is they need to accomplish physically. It is using the mind to improve the performance of the body.
What most people don’t seem to realize is that our mind is also a muscle and the neuropathways which run through our mind operate much the same as the tendons and fibers that run through our muscles and the rest of our body. It is the neuropathways that carry all our thoughts, images and ideas. And it is these thoughts, images and ideas which dictate our obsessions, actions, wants, needs, desires and resolutions. You can train, strengthen and develop the neuropathways that you want and allow those pathways that you no longer want to atrophy and diminish. It is the images that we visualize that run along a neuropathway and the more often you visualize that image, the bigger and stronger that pathway becomes.
Just as visualization has become such an integral part of physical activity because it is effective and it works, the same can be said for using visualization to help you change a behavior, reach a desired goal, or accomplish anything you aspire to. It is also a fact that visualization while in a deep state of relaxation becomes even more effective and more powerful (by speaking directly to the subconscious bypassing conscious blocks); and deep relaxation is more easily reached with the air of hypnosis.
Taking responsibility means that you accept you chose your life and everything in it (including your successes and your failures) and that you also chose to keep and hold onto pain, anger, hurt and guilt. This can be a very nasty, large pill to swallow; but it also means that anytime you decide, you can choose to leave it behind. You can choose to stop being miserable, you can choose to empower yourself and you can choose to succeed. You can choose to take responsibility and with the aid of visual imagery live a joyful life, leaving the pain behind and completely changing the energy that surrounds you.
So if you are having trouble sticking with your resolutions or reaching your goals, take control of your thoughts. For each negative self-defeating thought or image that you harbor, think 100 times more a positive, empowering image or thought. Use visualization to help you do this.
Remember, I am always available to answer any question or offer suggestions to help you change your life. Please feel free to write me; I will respond.
Linda Simmon, C.Ht.
Past Life Regressionist, Certified Hypnotherapist and Life Coach
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THINK OR SINK
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- Who's Coming to Dinner?
Your dinner companions might have something to do with how much you end up scarfing down. Case in point: When women in a study dined with men, they tended to choose lower-calorie foods than when dining with other women. Perhaps because they felt eating lightly was more attractive to men. Interestingly, the men in the study ate the same number of calories, no matter the gender of their meal companions. But similar research suggests that both men and women tend to eat more when they're with friends, family, or spouses than they do when eating alone. So what gives? It may be that people simply heap their plates higher when with people they're more comfortable with. But more likely it's about distraction. People pay less attention to feelings of fullness when someone's there beside them. Translation: Your dinner companions can distract you into eating the whole enchilada.
Here are strategies for eating less when dining solo. So what to do? After all, you can't always control who your dinner partners are. But here's what you can do: Practice mindful eating at every meal. Stop, think about your food, taste every morsel, and listen to your body when it starts to tell you you're full.
- Setting the Scene for Self-Control with Eating
You know how information overload can wilt your decision-making powers? Well, the same principle applies to your diet. Too much information -- in the form of snacks peeking out of the pantry, breads sitting on the kitchen counter, platters overflowing with plenty of extra helpings, and scoops of this, that, and everything else crowding your dinner plate -- makes it difficult for your brain to make rational, self-controlled choices. Here's how to set up your kitchen for self-control success . . .
Just as cityscapes can trigger the urge to explore, and gardenscapes can help your mind unwind, "kitchenscapes" can set the mood for food. But what mood does your kitchen convey? Here are some suggestions about how to make your kitchenscape -- and tablescape and platescape -- trigger healthy eating choices:
Kitchenscapes: The foods on the counter, ready to grab, are going to make it into your mouth most often. So hide the candy in the cupboard and set out a bowl of fresh fruit. In your fridge, bring the produce out of hiding and package and freeze large portions of leftovers. In the pantry, keep only one kind of treat on hand and limit yourself to a small supply -- not the super family-size packs from the grocery warehouse.
Tablescapes: Although seven-course meals are a mark of fine dining, it doesn't pay to offer lots of variety on your table. Present just a few options at dinnertime -- a main course and one or two vegetable side dishes. And nix large serving bowls -- serve only enough to provide each person with a reasonable helping. Package the extras in the kitchen before you serve the meal to yourself or others.
Platescapes: If you use a 12-inch plate, you'll serve yourself more food -- and eat more -- than you would if you used a 9-inch plate. Think small when choosing plates, bowls, cups, and glasses. Besides, small dishes take up less room in your dishwasher.
To teach yourself to eat this way, all you need is a single raisin or one dark-chocolate kiss cut into three parts (don’t worry, you’ll get more later). Take a deep, relaxing breath as you pick it up. Look at it for a few seconds. Smell it. Place it in your mouth and roll it around on your tongue. Feel the wrinkles or the smooth surface. Now bite. Note the chewy, gritty, or creamy texture; the sweet, fruity, astringent taste or the sweetness. Extract all the flavor before you swallow. Then, see how long the flavor lasts in your mouth.
When you take small bites and savor the look, smell, feel, and taste of each one, not only does the meal or snack last longer, but also you enjoy it more and eat less. This has even had a huge impact on curbing chronic binge eating.
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