Welcome to my August newsletter. I hope it finds you all doing well. Here in the United States we are in the midst of Summer. I live in Southern California and we are having an amazing heat wave. From what I’m hearing on the news, so are most of the other states as well. For those of you in the Southern Hemisphere, hopefully you are reading this from a cooler location!!!!
I couldn’t decide what I wanted the focus of this newsletter to be and it was suggested to me by a new friend (TFS, you know who you are) that the subject should be “Trust”. Trust encompasses so many things and I find my thoughts all over the place. I have written something that I think you might enjoy and I hope you all find helpful.
I discovered something about myself just the other day. When things aren’t going exactly the way I would like them to or perhaps someone I’m hoping will call doesn’t or something I want to have or do, doesn’t materialize, I’ve practiced and I’ve learned and I’ve gotten really good at telling myself that it is these times when I need to trust in the Universe more. Trust that things will happen when they should, that sometimes delays are there for a good reason. That reason just might be that perhaps I need to rethink what I’m planning to do or the way I’m planning to do it, or maybe that I just need to look at it from a slightly different angle.
Looking at things this way, I’ve been able to see much more clearly and easily the patterns that my life and this world have to offer, I have enjoyed so much more watching events unfold and I no longer spend hours and days experiencing the frustration of continuously trying to push people, events and things that simply won’t be pushed. I’ve stopped trying to control everyone and everything around me and have learned to believe and trust in the theory of prosperity and abundance that I teach.
I was reminded just the other day that I get so involved in my projects, my goals, my workshops, my clients, friends, pets and family that sometimes I forget just how important “I” am to me. And I’ve seen this same thing in many of you. I get so involved that when an opportunity I’ve been waiting for shows up or that call I’ve wanted and waited for finally comes when I least expect it, my first reaction has been “I can’t do that now. I can’t possibly meet you. I don’t have time. I’m in the middle of a project or at a crucial point in reaching one of my goals. I certainly don’t have time to play. Next week would be better for me. Call me back next week or maybe even next month!”
And I realized that as much as I’ve learned to trust when there are delays or things aren’t going my way, that it might just be for a very good reason, I stopped trusting that when good things appear, they appear for an equally good reason. Maybe even a better reason. A reason that means it is definitely the time to pay attention to what the Universe has offered you. Look at that job offer that comes out of the blue, go to that party you’ve just been invited to, get together with that friend you’ve been hoping would call and they did. Take a look at the business opportunity that just fell into your lap. Trust that perhaps the time is just perfect.
And this brings me to my next point. In my workshops I lecture about the value areas of our lives. These value areas are Career; Family; Relationships, Personal Growth and Development; Health and Fitness; and Spirituality.
We look at this diagram, pick a value area that we want to improve or work on and we focus on that area. Removing and releasing negative emotions and old garbage that may be holding us back and, in addition, I teach how to breathe life and energy into that area or into a goal, moving it from some distant future time into the present, into this very moment and helping to make it a reality. It is all very powerful and very effective.
And, I know that I’m certainly not the only practitioner out there that uses techniques like these. Recently I received a Traveling Hopefully Newsletter from Libby Gill and she reminded me of an important fact, a fact that I seemed to have forgotten; our lives get out of balance.
Libby uses a tool in her work, very similar to the value areas diagram I’ve used here, something she calls a Life Wheel. Libby uses the life wheel to show “where you are living in - and out - of balance by asking you to measure satisfaction levels in eight key areas of your personal and professional life.”
Libby’s Life Wheel has two more sections than the Value Areas Diagram that I have used in my workshops. Looking at Libby’s Life Wheel I realized that I have been totally missing two crucial areas! I have now revised my Value Areas Diagram and added two very important aspects. Using my Diagram and Libby’s Life Wheel as models, here for the first time is my new Value Areas of Life Diagram:
With Libby’s permission, here are her suggestions for using this tool:
“… Now look at each area of the Life Wheel and, as objectively and honestly as you can, rate your satisfaction level on a 1-10 scale in each of the eight areas, one being least satisfied, ten being most satisfied. Don't worry about past or future, just rate your satisfaction level in each area as it is today. For example, if you are single and would like to get married someday, but you're currently satisfied with your solo status, you might rate that a seven or eight on your satisfaction scale. Or if you're earning decent money, but it's not quite where you want to be, your assessment could be a six or seven.
Take a look at your ratings. Any surprises? How do you feel about the overall balance? Are there areas in your life where you'd like to increase your satisfaction levels? When I first completed this exercise, I was shocked to see that I'd given myself such low ratings in areas like Health & Fitness, Friends & Family and even Career. The Life Wheel put my life in focus in a way I'd never looked at it before. Having that focused awareness was the first step toward starting a fitness regimen, losing twenty-five pounds, making new friends, and beginning the journey toward an entirely new career as a coach
Maybe now it's time to focus on my Fun & Recreation rating by taking up a new hobby - photography!” Libby Gill, www.LibbyGill.com.
When I did this exercise I realized that my Fun/Recreation and Romance/Relationship sections were way down there in satisfaction levels to about a 3 or perhaps even a 2!?!?! Oh yes, I’ve been going out and doing things, but those things were more for family and friends than they were for me and somehow, sometime I’d obviously made the decision that I didn’t have time for a real relationship, career had to come first. I’d made that big mistake of saying to myself “I can’t have it all.”
Yes, you can have it all, if you trust and believe that you can!
So, it is important to do this exercise every now and then, to look at the core values of your life. Notice what you are neglecting and then begin the process of consciously focusing on those neglected areas, “trust” a bit more that they are yours if you want them. Trust that they are there for you and become aware. With awareness comes clarity and with clarity comes even more focus. Visualize and imagine all the value areas of your life working their way up to a 9 or 10 on the satisfaction level.
As Abraham Lincoln once said, “… in the end it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.” So live your life fully, all of your life, not just one or two core areas, but all of them!
Linda Simmon, C.Ht.
A few health tips for you to peruse:
Think your immune system's not tough enough? Try tai chi.
When it comes to health, the slow, graceful movements of this low-impact exercise are deceptively powerful. The latest benefit: improved resistance to viruses, such as the one that causes painful shingles.
Do your palms sweat, knees shake, and lips quiver at the thought of giving a presentation?
The key to keeping your jitters at bay may lie between the sheets. According to a recent study, having sex before a stressful event, such as giving a speech or going on an interview, can greatly reduce anxiety. And the calming effect can last up to a week. Of course, an easier way to ensure a smooth performance is to simply know your stuff.
Looking for fun ways to stay well? Spend more time with friends -- and in bed.
Having close pals you can laugh and cry with, through thick and thin, is a blessing. So is getting a good night's sleep, especially in restless times. But wait, there's more. Both also reduce your blood levels of an inflammatory protein that's been linked to Alzheimer's, bone thinning, heart trouble, rheumatoid arthritis, and even some kinds of cancer.
A more carefree attitude may help keep your mind young.
Chronic worry was linked to an increased risk of cognitive decline in a recent study. Obsessive worriers had more than double the risk of decline compared to their more carefree peers. Kick worries to the curb by writing them down in a journal or talking them out with people you love. Also, work on decisive plans of action for worries that won't go away..
Are you afraid to try new things? Diving in more often could mean living a longer life.
There may be a link between a fear of novel situations and a shorter life span, according to research. Of course, shyness and vigilance have their time and place. But if you've nothing to fear but fear itself, take a leap of faith the next time you are presented with an opportunity to experience something new..
If you don't touch the hard stuff but would love some of the highly touted health benefits attributed to red wine, pour yourself a glass of grape juice instead.
Like wine, grape juice is full of protective pigments known as flavonoids. Unlike wine, it doesn't stop you from driving home safely if you over-indulge. And the juice's heart-smart reputation is growing. For instance, when people drank Concord grape juice daily for 2 weeks in a study, their "bad" LDL cholesterol became less dangerous and their blood levels of disease-fighting antioxidants rose.
Too much stress at work could jeopardize your musculoskeletal health.
Research suggests that musculoskeletal ailments such as carpal tunnel syndrome may not be due strictly to repetitive motions. Mental stress may be a factor, too. Stress can cause muscles to tense up and contribute to upper body ailments. Soothe your stress by taking multiple stretching and deep-breathing breaks.
Laugh your way to better blood vessel function by watching a funny flick.
Laughter relaxes blood vessels and increases blood flow -- the exact opposite of what your blood vessels do when you are stressed. In a small study of healthy men and women with normal blood pressure, watching a funny movie increased blood flow by about 22 percent. If funny movies aren't your style, spend time with the people who tickle your funny bone.
- Your brain doesn't know you're kidding.
Random thoughts such as, "He gives me a pain," or "This job makes me sick" are viewed by the right brain as instructions. Think healthy thoughts!
If you haven’t yet had a chance to visit www.healinghouse.org, please try to. Healing House is the wonderful place at which I have had the very great pleasure of conducting several workshops. So, when you get a chance, check it out. You’ll enjoy the visit.
Linda Simmon, C.Ht.