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These quotes appeared in Catherine Poole’s latest newsletter to me and seemed particularly appropriate for this month’s newsletter:

“ Words must be weighed,
not counted.

— Polish Proverb

" All our words will be useless unless they come from within - words that do not give the light of Christ increase the darkness."
— Mother Teresa

"What's in a word? Consider the difference between "wise man" and "wise guy."
— Anonymous

I was in a thrift store one day with my daughter and she came across a book of thoughts, sayings, poems, etc. by a very special man she and my son spent some time with when they were quite young. So, for all the children out there, these are a few of his words …

“ Discovering the truth about ourselves is a lifetime’s work, but it’s worth the effort.”

“ Who you are inside is what helps you make and do everything in life.”

" There’s a nurturing element to all human beings, whenever they themselves have been nurtured, and it’s going to be expressed one way or another.."

" Solitude is different from loneliness, and it doesn’t have to be a lonely kind of thing."

" Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is,
right here and now."

" The greatest gift you ever give is your honest self."

" You bring all you ever were and are to any relationship
you have today."

Often out of periods of losing come the greatest strivings toward a new winning streak.

“We want to raise our children
so that they can take
a sense of pleasure
in both their own heritage
and the diversity of others.”

“The world needs a sense of worth, and it will achieve it only by its people feeling that they
are worthwhile.”

— Fred (Mister) Rogers


Welcome to my August newsletter. Here in the Northern Hemisphere we are in the midst of the long, hot dog days of summer. Kids are out of school and probably driving you crazy. That’s one reason why I decided that the focus of this month’s newsletter would be children. How much what we say and how we say it affects our children; and not only our children, but those we are closest to. So, please read on, because words have power; more than you might realize …

Sticks and Stones

I’m sure you’ve heard that childhood saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me”. THIS IS SO WRONG!

Words have power. Words have so much power that it is possible for them to literally destroy us. Those of you who have lived in an emotionally abusive situation know this better than anyone else. We can heal from physical injuries, but the wounds that are created by hearing hurtful words (especially when those words come from a parent or lover) stay with us for years eating away and corroding our self-image and confidence, causing us to doubt ourselves and our decisions. Forcing us to second guess everything we do and say. Those same hurtful words may even be responsible for debilitating illnesses such as Cancer that we can suffer from later in life.

This is particularly true with children. Up to the age of about six a child's brain wave pattern is almost identical to that of a person under hypnosis. Hypnosis by definition is basically a hyper-suggestible state with access to the subconscious. This is why hypnosis is so effective when changing a behavior pattern or habit is the desired goal. But it also means that young children are particularly suggestible to their surroundings and what they hear.

A perfect example of this power that words can have comes from Dr. Bernie Siegel who quotes a patient of his: “To quote a woman, whose mother only gave her failure messages and dressed her in dark colors, and who as an adult has more trouble with her mother's words than she does with cancer. ‘My mother's words were eating away at me and maybe gave me cancer.’”

You can image how difficult living a life filled with negativity or abuse can be; how much like a victim you can feel. But you can take back control and you can reverse much of the damage that was done. As an adult, you can decide that you are not going to be a victim. Sound too easy? The truth is that it is actually easier than you might believe.

The first step is to acknowledge how strong you really are. You had to be strong. You had to be amazing to live through all that crap that made you feel like a victim in the first place and to keep on going.

The child who survives abuse is amazingly self-reliant and strong. The woman, who has come out of a nasty, abusive relationship and can keep on going, is powerful beyond belief. The man who came from a loveless home and can continue to search for the right relationship and woman to love is strong and sensitive with a big, beautiful heart and so much love to give. And there are hundreds and thousands of stories just like those that show us, each of us, just how powerful we are if we are willing to accept that power and that strength; and that leads to the second step, accepting your power and making the conscious decision to take control of and responsibility for your own thoughts.

Science has given us the capability of being able to look at and in the human brain while it is working and to actually see how it is functioning. We are able to watch what happens to the brain as we think different thoughts and visualize different images. Science has taught us that just as we can develop any muscle in our body by “using” it, by working it, so can we develop neuro pathways within the mind. It is along these neuro pathways that all thoughts and emotions travel. Think a negative thought constantly and you develop a neuro pathway for that negative thought that becomes larger, wider and stronger each and every day, eating up those smaller neuro pathways beside it that you have allowed to atrophy. And the same process holds true for what you hear because what you hear evokes an image and a thought. This is why “words” have so much power. You can imagine just how strong that neuro pathway carrying that negative image must be for the person who has heard the same life sucking negative words over and over again since childhood.

It becomes crucial for you to take the time and think about what you are saying to your child, wife, husband, lover, friend before you utter those hurtful words that can never be taken back. Once said they are out there forever. Saying you are sorry doesn’t counteract the damage that was done in an instant of self-gratification. And that’s what venting to another person is; don’t ever delude yourself that it is anything more than pure selfish, self-gratification. Vent when you are alone, scream and yell and swear all you want. But when you are with someone you care about, think before you speak because despite that childhood saying … words can hurt you, words can kill you; and even though you can take control of your thoughts and change the damage that was done, is this something that you want your own children to have to do because of your words? I hope not, and so while you are taking back control of your own thoughts, why not include taking back control of the words you speak, choosing words of love and support whenever you can.

If you are around someone constantly who criticizes you or berates you or even worse, it is important for you to counteract those words and images with thoughts that you and you alone choose and control. For every negative thought or image that either comes into your mind or is forced into your mind by another, take the time to take back control and think 100 times more about your hopes, dreams and desires. [Please remember hypnosis is the most effective, quickest and enjoyable way to do this by speaking directly to the subconscious where these neuro-pathways run.] Take the time to remember each and every good thing that has happened to you throughout the day, but not only that, throughout your life. Think and dream about your future. Take the time and allow your desires to flow through you.

Also, I’d be negligent here if I didn’t say this: If you are with someone who is abusing you in any way, leave. Remove yourself from that situation and run as far and fast as you can and if you are a woman with children, remember what this is doing to your kids and get them away from it now. I know when you are beaten down it is hard to see any options other than the one you find yourself in. But you are wrong. There are always options out there and there are people and organizations that can help you get away. Make some calls, find out what you can do, call out for help, someone will answer. I will answer if you need me to. But most of all, keep your thoughts strong. Your life literally depends on it.

And now, I want to quote one last story from Dr. Bernie Siegel with a good suggestion for each of us: “One last story and it is hard for me to stop because there is only one thing truer than the truth; a story. Stories change people while statistics give them something to argue about. Erickson (the father of hypnosis) would write in a patient's chart and then excuse himself and leave the room. Of course he expected the patient would get up and go look at what he had written and he wrote, "Doing well." So give your family mottoes to live by like: "Do what makes you happy" so they pay attention to their feelings, and "Difficulties are God's redirections" so they keep an open mind about the future, and remind your doctor that their words can become swords and like a scalpel kill or cure.”
For more information on Dr. Siegel, visit www.BernieSiegelMD.com

Linda Simmon, C.Ht.
www.newhypnotherapy.com

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HEALTH TIPS

This month’s health tips are going to focus entirely on the banana. All children seem to love bananas and turns out that’s a very good thing. Please read on for some fun and interesting facts from Health@RealAge.com.

This month’s health tips are going to focus entirely on the banana. All children seem to love bananas and turns out that’s a very good thing. Please read on for some fun and interesting facts from Health@RealAge.com.

Eat Your Bananas!
A professor at CCNY for a physiological psych class told his class about bananas.
He said the expression 'going bananas' is from the effects of bananas on the brain.

Bananas contain three natural sugars - sucrose, fructose and glucose combined with fiber.
A banana gives an instant, sustained and substantial boost of energy. Research has proven that just two bananas provide enough energy for a strenuous 90-minute workout. No wonder the banana is the number one fruit with the world's leading athletes. But energy isn't the only way a banana can help us keep fit. It can also help overcome or prevent a substantial number of illnesses and conditions, making it a must to add to our daily diet.

According to a recent survey undertaken by MIND amongst people suffering from depression, many felt much better after eating a banana. This is because bananas contain tryptophan, a type of protein that the body converts into serotonin, known to make you relax, improve your mood and generally make you feel happier.

  • PMS?
    Forget the pills - eat a banana. The vitamin B6 it contains regulates blood glucose levels, which can affect your mood.
  • Anemia?
    High in iron, bananas can stimulate the production of hemoglobin in the blood and so helps in cases of anemia.
  • Blood Pressure:
    This unique tropical fruit is extremely high in potassium yet low in salt, making it perfect to beat blood pressure. So much so, the US Food and Drug Administration has just allowed the banana industry to make official claims for the fruit's ability to reduce the risk of blood pressure and stroke.

Two Hundred students at a Twickenham (Middlesex) school (England) were helped through their exams this year by eating bananas at breakfast, break, and lunch in a bid to boost their brain power. Research has shown that the potassium-packed fruit can assist learning by making pupils more alert.

High in fiber, including bananas in the diet can help restore normal bowel action, helping to overcome the problem without resorting to laxatives.

  • Hangovers?
    One of the quickest ways of curing a hangover is to make a banana milkshake, sweetened with honey. The banana calms the stomach and, with the help of the honey, builds up depleted blood sugar levels, while the milk soothes and re-hydrates your system.
  • Heartburn?
    Bananas have a natural antacid effect in the body, so if you suffer from heartburn, try eating a banana for soothing relief.
  • Morning Sickness?
    Snacking on bananas between meals helps to keep blood sugar levels up and avoid morning sickness.
  • Mosquito bites?
    Before reaching for the insect bite cream, try rubbing the affected area with the inside of a banana skin. Many people find it amazingly successful at reducing swelling and irritation.

Bananas are high in B vitamins that help calm the nervous system.

The banana is used as a dietary food against intestinal disorders because of its soft texture and smoothness. It is the only raw fruit that can be eaten without distress in over-chronicler cases. It also neutralizes over-acidity and reduces irritation by coating the lining of the stomach.

  • Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)?
    Bananas can help SAD sufferers because they contain the natural mood enhancer tryptophan.
  • Smoking & Tobacco Use?
    Bananas can also help people trying to give up smoking.
    The B6, B12 they contain, as well as the potassium and magnesium found in them, help the body recover from the effects of nicotine withdrawal.
  • Stress?
    Potassium is a vital mineral, which helps normalize the heartbeat, sends oxygen to the brain and regulates your body's water balance. When we are stressed, our metabolic rate rises, thereby reducing our potassium levels. These can be rebalanced with the help of a high-potassium banana snack.
  • Strokes?:
    According to research in The New England Journal of Medicine, eating bananas as part of a regular diet can cut the risk of death by strokes by as much as 40 percent.
  • Warts?
    Those keen on natural alternatives swear that if you want to kill off a wart, take a piece of banana skin and place it on the wart, with the yellow side out. Carefully hold the skin in place with a plaster or surgical tape!

So, a banana really is a natural remedy for many ills. When you compare it to an apple, it has four times the protein, twice the carbohydrate, three times the phosphorus, five times the vitamin A and iron, and twice the other vitamins and minerals. It is also rich in potassium and is one of the best value foods around. So maybe its time to change that well-known phrase so that we say and change it to: 'A banana a day keeps the doctor away!'

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