New Beginnings Ezine
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... and as usual, a few of my favorite quotes:
“The hand will not reach
for what the heart
does not long for.”
— Welsh Proverb
"I believe in Spinoza's God who reveals himself in the orderly harmony of what exists, not in a God who concerns himself with
fates and actions of
— Albert Einstein
"The vision must be
followed by the venture.
It is not enough to stare
up the steps - we must
step up the stairs."
— Vance Havner
"Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly."
"Before you speak, ask yourself; Is it kind, is it necessary, Is it true, does it improve on the silence?"
— Shirdi Sai Baba
"What's in a word? Consider the difference between ‘wise man’ and ‘wise guy’."
"Enthusiasm is the electricity of life. How do you get it? You act enthusiastic until you make a habit. Enthusiasm is natural; it is being alive, taking the initiative, seeing the importance of what you do, giving it dignity, and making what you do important to yourself
and to others."
— Gordon Parks
"If we don't change the direction we're going,
we're likely to end up
where we're headed."
— Ancient Chinese Proverb
"Take control of your life with a single thought."
— Linda Simmon
|Happy April newsletter!
We have a TV series up here in the U.S. called Harry’s Law, and in one of the episodes a couple of weeks ago, Harry (Kathy Bates) said something that I just had to put into this newsletter:
“There comes a time in every man’s life when he learns to stop letting life happen to him and instead happens to it.”
I used that quote today because this issue of my newsletter is going to deal with taking control of your body and your life and stop just letting life happen to you. It is time to start directing your own life script.
Keeping that in mind, I’ve written the following article ...
Letting Go of Fear
(to Live Again)
The world we live in today is a world filled with things you can be afraid of; and rather than getting better, sometimes it just feels as if each year it gets a bit worse. Global warming, war, recession, swine flu, unemployment, foreclosure, acid rain and even drinking your water out of a plastic bottle!
In my work, I have had occasion quite frequently to work with victims of abuse; and when abuse enters into the equation, this issue of fear becomes an even bigger obstacle; one that they cannot run away from because it insidiously and negatively rears its ugly head over and over again manifesting in failed relationships, an inability to hold down a job, self-esteem or serious anger issues.
I’m here to tell you that no matter what your life and world may look like at any given moment, you can choose to change it. When we can shift our awareness, we can create change within ourselves. And the natural byproduct of this change, this shift in energy is that from that moment forward you will experience life differently than you have. By simply changing a thought, you can change your entire world.
We all have the capacity to not only decide our future, but change the direction we are headed based on the decisions we make today. In physics, this is the essence of being born again and it is something you can do anytime you choose; and you can do it with a thought (or more accurately the repetition of a thought).
This is something I discuss over and over again with clients, friends and anybody who will listen. If your life isn’t everything you want it to be, look at yourself; you need to look inside to understand why. You need to pay attention to your thoughts and in particular, you need to be aware of that self-talk that we all have running through our minds.
According to Jerry Jampolsky, there are certain words that we use to sabotage ourselves, words that hold us back and ensure we do not move forward. When you read this list, I’m sure you’ll see (just as I did), how many of these words you say or think daily:
If there’s anything to be fearful of, it’s the fact that human beings are consistent in their ability to sabotage themselves; but to be fair; it isn’t all your fault. It is something you were taught to do by grandparents, parents, friends and society as a whole. It is a pattern that is passed on from generation to generation; and this becomes an even more overwhelming problem when abuse also becomes a family tradition. It’s time to break the pattern and change those traditions!
The current trend toward Mindfulness Therapy teaches us just how to do this.
When you practice mindfulness you bring your awareness into the present moment. By “residing” more in the moment, you can begin to see both the inner and outer aspects of your own personal reality. When you focus internally, you can see that the mind is continually chattering with commentary or judgment; that negative voice I talked about above.
When you observe your thoughts, you can start to see them for what they are without fear or judgment. Those who practice mindfulness realize that thoughts are just thoughts (they don’t have to be a way of life) and you are free to release a thought; especially when you realize that the thought may not be based in reality or truth. It is important to understand and accept that the words, thoughts and messages you hear during “thinking” may not necessarily be accurate or even helpful, but rather are more likely to be versions of the truth.
As you more closely observe your inner reality, you will find that happiness is not something that is brought about by only changing your outer circumstances; happiness starts with loosening and releasing attachments to specific thoughts, predispositions and scripts running through your mind. When you release these thoughts you then also release your automatic reaction toward certain situations or feelings. In essence, you take yourself off auto pilot and start to truly focus and live again.
Even though the most effective way to access mindfulness is during a hypnotic session, mindfulness does not have to be practiced only during a controlled session. Mindfulness is an activity that can be done any time by bringing the mind to focus on what is happening in the present moment and noticing your usual internal commentary.
You can be mindful of the sensations in your feet while you are walking and of the commentary running through your mind: "I wish I didn't have to walk any further". You can be mindful of the sensations you feel when washing dishes and instead of reverting to a familiar commentary that “washing dishes is boring”, you can control, focus and direct your thoughts to the mindfulness moment that the warm soapy water feels good on your hands and the sun shining through the window makes the bubbles sparkle.
The truth is that when any activity is done mindfully (with focus), it is a form of relaxation and meditation, and it is possible to practice mindfulness all the time.
Mindfulness therapy and relaxation have been clinically shown to be effective for the management of stress, anxiety and panic, chronic pain, depression, obsessive thinking and a wide array of medical and mental health related conditions. It is also an excellent tool at your disposal to help you move away from fear and into life.
Have the courage to step outside the trance of narrowing fear, thoughts and actions by incorporating “Mindfulness” into your daily routine and actively taking control of your thoughts and participating in your own life again. Keeping it real and fresh is my approach to hypnotherapy, helping to bring you back to the world of the wakeful living is my goal.
Linda Simmon C.Ht.
I used to include a poetry section every month, but haven’t for quite a while. A dear friend of mine wrote a poem that I found to be so poignant that I decided to include it in this months’ newsletter.
So, from my dear friend Alice Kahveciyan ...
HOLE IN MY HEART
Each day I rise and see the sun, I’m so thankful you’re my beloved one. But how I’ve cried so silently inside, ‘cause God only knows how hard I’ve tried.
Don’t make me say it’s time to part, ‘cause this pain has caused a Hole In My Heart. Like a chamber so deep and hollow, it’s dark and hard to follow.
I keep waiting and waiting for a brand new start, only to grow older with this Hole In My Heart.
Been faithful and honest - wore my heart on my sleeve, but this Hole In My Heart just makes me want to leave.
Tired of words over endless days, yet I know they won’t change your stubborn ways.
Together we’re meant to fly so high, but this hole’s so deep it makes me wanna cry.
As I gaze down its long lost path, this Hole In My Heart fills with ire and wrath. Each day it sinks a little deeper and deeper, for I am your wife, your lover and keeper.
But now I weaken from fight-to-fight, for the love we have still hasn’t taken flight. There’s so much to do, I don’t know where to start. Help me rid this Hole In My Heart.
Don’t make me say it’s time to go away, ‘cause my love for you was always there to stay.
And as it echoes this hole so cavernous, I remember the days our love was ravenous.
There’s still a chance to renew your vow, just mend this hole and mend it now.
So help me make a nicer home, or far away you’ll have to roam. The choice is yours and yours to make. So mend my heart or it will break.
Been through many ups and downs, hand-in-hand, conquered leaps and bounds. But this Hole In My Heart doesn’t pulse anymore, could it be time for you to hit the door?
If this Hole In My Heart doesn’t mend fast, our love will wither and surely not last. So don’t let this happen to me or you, just remember the day when you said:
“ Darlin, I do.”
Diet vs. Exercise: Which Is the Champ?
Great news! You don't have to starve yourself to get that perfect, fat-free frame. In fact, you shouldn't. Because even if you lose weight through dieting alone, your body won't burn fat any easier. To rev up your fat-burning engines, focus less on how often you empty your plate and more on how often you fill your walking shoes.
Fat Burning and More
When a group of sedentary and overweight older adults recently tested three weight loss systems -- exercise only (mostly walking), diet only, and exercise plus diet -- there was no question about the results. When it came to fat burning, the walkers won hands down over those who simply watched what they ate. The bodies of the people who strutted their stuff used more fat to fuel their activity. Just 30 minutes of daily walking gives you a host of health benefits besides extra fat burning, including more disease protection and better stress stomping.
Reference: Separate and combined effects of exercise training and weight loss on exercise efficiency and substrate oxidation. Amati, F. et al., Journal of Applied Physiology 2008 Sept; 105(3):825-831.
Walking Off Fat -- Fast!
Get started with these six simple steps to walking off the fat.
Saying you're too heavy to exercise is like saying you're too skinny to eat. Your body needs exercise just as your body needs food. And walking may be one of the best-kept secrets of weight loss. Many people who have succeeded in losing a lot say that walking every day was a key factor.
No matter how overweight you are, you can do something to start the process of losing fat, strengthening your bones, and relieving your joints of the load that they're carrying. Just follow our six steps to the perfect walking program and you'll be walking off the fat in no time.
6 Steps to the Perfect Walking Program:
Think: Every day, no excuses
You must make walking a priority every day. And that's walking -- not gardening or house cleaning or hitting golf balls. You can do those things, too, but they can't take the place of your daily walk. Use a calendar to keep track of your walks.
Walk just a few minutes a day if that's all you can do right now. Then, increase by 1 or 2 minutes every few days. And go slowly at first. You'll still burn the same number of calories as a smaller person walking more quickly, because your body is carrying a bigger load. And walking slowly can reduce stress on the knees by up to 25%.
Once you've built up your stamina, aim for 30 minutes every day (you can break it into three
10-minute walks if you like).
Warm-ups prepare your body, physically and psychologically, for the upcoming workout. For walking workouts, a slower walk is the warm-up. So start by walking slowly for several minutes. You will know you are ready to go at a faster clip when you start to feel a little warmer and your heart beats a little faster.
For most people, strenuous exercise is no fun. Odds are, if you work out so hard that you don't enjoy it, you'll probably stop. So cut yourself some slack, and keep the pace enjoyable. This will save you from overuse injuries, too. If you feel pain, do your body a favor: Listen, and let up.
Think: Crank it up (gradually)
Once you've been walking for a while, and you're feeling good and enjoying more energy and stamina, increase your activity: Go faster or farther. But do not increase it more than 10% in any week, no matter how good you feel.
Think: Stretch, stretch, stretch
Great health without stretching is like trying to look good without combing your hair -- it ain't gonna happen. Set aside 2 or 3 minutes to stretch when you're done walking.
Stretching the muscles you just used allows them to be ready for the next time you want to use them. It's not clear if stretching decreases soreness afterward, but it definitely improves and maintains joint range of motion. Here are some stretching basics:
Move slowly into the stretch position until you feel a gentle (not painful) pulling sensation.
Hold the stretch for 10 to 30 seconds without bouncing.
Repeat each stretch at least two or three times. (If you cut corners and only do it once, hold the stretch for at least 20 seconds.)
Do one stretch for each muscle group you exercise.
- Stop immediately if you feel pain in a joint when performing a stretch. Stretches should be felt in the muscles, not the joints.
More Walking Wonders
Walk not only for the physical effects but also for the psychological boost. Remember where self-esteem comes from: the ability to overcome obstacles and achieve goals. Walking accomplishes both! And if you learn to enjoy your stretching sessions and indulge in them, stretching may become as much of a benefit to your body and psyche as walking.
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