I can’t believe it is August already and the kids are getting ready to go back to school. It also means that my daughter will be going to London to finish her education and right now that just seems so far away. But, she is pursuing a lifelong dream and I admire her strength and persistence in getting there. It has been a part of her “vision quest” for quite a while; although the program she will be going into and the school she will be attending wasn’t part of her original goal. She made adjustments along the way as it became obvious or necessary, and it is those adjustments that actually made her reaching this goal a reality.
This is something we all need to learn to do and my article this month deals with this exact thing. I hope you all find it useful and helpful.
(When Is It Time to Lose Your Vision and Reach Your Goal)
As a hypnotherapist and life coach, I find that a lot of the work I do is helping my clients to define and gain clarity about their goals, visions or dreams. We all know how important these things are, they help drive us forward and keep our lives stimulating, interesting and filled with purpose. If you don’t have a clear concept of what you want, how can you ever hope to get it? That seems simple enough, right? Well, not quite as straight forward as it might first appear.
Sometimes we can get so focused on reaching a goal that we forget to live in the present moment. Sometimes we can get so vested in the path we think we need to take to reach our very specific goal or vision, that we lose sight of the reasons why that goal or vision was important to us in the first place.
I took a little trip with my kids a couple of years ago to a place that we all love called Cambria. My goal for this trip was to have fun and my vision of this trip was that we would be there and the weather would be sunny and warm but not too hot. After all, it is in the Central Coast of California and it was summer. Anyway, as we were walking through the town, it started to rain and then it started to pour.
Going from place to place we would get drenched in a matter of seconds. This wasn’t exactly the “vision” I had in my mind of what this trip should be like. I suppose I could have gotten irritated or disappointed and we could have stayed in our room bemoaning the weather, but we didn’t. We did exactly what we were going to do and we lived in the moment. We ended up having so much fun running around in the rain and then going into an adorable little coffee shop and getting hot chocolate, that it made the whole trip memorable and one we will never forget and still talk about.
When I look back, the end result of that trip was exactly what my goal had been; to have a great and fun time; however, the getting there and the path we took was nothing like what I had planned in my vision. If I had remained so vested in my vision of exactly how I was going to reach my goal that I couldn’t or wouldn’t make the slight adjustments in the direction that were needed in order to live in the moment, much of the trip would have been boring and we certainly wouldn’t have had nearly as much fun.
Life is a tricky balancing act between our goals and visions, the paths we take to get there and living in the moment.
Too often we get stuck in the thought that if we don’t stay completely focused on our goal, and that if we are not very specific about that goal, we will never reach it; and somehow we’ve got this feeling that if we can’t reach it, we will never be happy. That’s just not true. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that it is not only okay, but maybe even crucial to let go of a vision. This world we live in is always asking us to find what is perfect in this very moment and to realize that we can find joy right now.
At times like this, I like to think about an Apache proverb I heard a while ago in an episode of Criminal Minds, it goes like this,“You can take many paths to get to the same place.”
Whenever I find myself stuck and feel that things just don’t seem to be moving forward as quickly or as easily as I think they should, I remind myself that just because I had a vision of how I would reach a goal and that I might have to change the direction of my path a bit, it doesn’t mean I’ve let go of my goal or dream. It means that it just might end up being colored a bit differently than I had anticipated. It might end up being even sweeter and remembered much more fondly.
We each have the opportunity to decide what we want to experience in each moment of our lives, and we have the ability to live each moment in that moment and to enjoy it completely.
If you find this difficult, remember that hypnotherapy can help.
Linda Simmon C.Ht.
Health tips this month are going to focus on that dreaded belly fat since (1) it is my major problem; (2) we do still have a bit of Summer left up here and that means a bit more bathing suit weather, and (3) you guys down south actually have your summer rapidly approaching!
Best Belly-Fat Buster
Which should you cut back on first if you want to trim belly fat -- carbs or fat?
You might think that dietary fat goes straight to your middle, but research suggests that too many empty carbs is really the first thing to do your belly in.
In a study, healthy overweight men and women went on two consecutive 8-week diet interventions. The first diet period was focused on weight maintenance and the second aimed for weight reduction by cutting calories.
Through each phase, the participants followed either a reduced-fat or a reduced-carbohydrate diet. When all was said and done, both groups lost weight. But it turned out that the group on the reduced-carb diet -- which, incidentally, also focused on quality, low-glycemic-index carbs -- lost 11 percent more deep belly fat compared with the group on the low-fat diet. Plus, the low-carb group lost more fat mass overall.
Shrinking the amount of belly fat you have is always a good idea for your health, because too much visceral -- or intra-abdominal -- fat increases your risk of diabetes, stroke, and heart disease. But it's not always clear how to target that pesky problem area. In addition to cutting out empty carbs like white rice, white bread, and white pasta, consider these strategies as well:
Just Get Up and Move
It's not that slice of cheesecake that goes straight to your belly bulge. It's the couch lounging.
In a recent study, one group of overweight people lost significant amounts of belly fat over 8 months, while another group gained more belly bulge. Yet both groups ate about 2,000 calories a day. The difference? Exercise.
The losers exercised about 3 hours a week. But not just any form of exercise will do. It was high-intensity cardio that helped the overweight exercisers carve out their middles. If you can't commit to 3 hours, know this; working out less frequently -- and at a more moderate pace -- is also an option.
A third group that took this approach didn't lose any belly fat; they didn't gain any, either. A decent accomplishment, considering they also downed about 2,000 calories daily.
So the take-home message is that even a little exercise helps keep your middle mini. And just imagine what you could do if you cut back on calories, too? Truth be told, not only would your jeans fit better, but also you'd reduce your risk of health problems like metabolic syndrome, diabetes, and heart disease.
Lower that Stress and Relax
If you want to banish belly fat, you've gotta do something fairly counterintuitive; eat.
Yep, that's right. Don't starve yourself. Eat.
Research shows that dieting too intensely or tracking every morsel too closely creates the perfect conditions for adding belly fat, not subtracting it.
A new study tracked the tension levels of 121 female dieters for 3 weeks and showed some worrying results. Those who followed a strict low-cal eating plan -- consisting of prepackaged meals totaling 1,200 calories a day -- experienced a significant rise in their levels of the stress hormone cortisol. And that can spell big trouble when it comes to belly management.
Cortisol tells your body to store more calories in your midsection, exactly where you don't want it. On top of that, feeling stressed-out can make sticking with any weight loss plan feel darn near impossible.
Researchers also found that the women who kept super-detailed food diaries felt way more stressed-out than the people who were inclined to wing it. So while it's good to think about what you're putting into your mouth, don't obsess about it. Watch portion sizes, choose healthy foods, be aware of how many times you visit the snack cupboard, but don't make things too difficult.
The Right Kind of Fat
That bagel? It could go right to your gut, literally. But a bit of olive oil each day may help keep your middle little.
That's what researchers are saying after testing two diets -- one high in carbs and the other based on healthy fats from olive oil. The "fat" diet kept bellies flatter.
Besides making you sad when you zip up your pants, excessive abdominal fat increases your risk for high blood sugar and many other health problems.
But in a recent study of overweight people, a Mediterranean-style diet -- where approximately 30 percent to 40 percent of the calories came from unsaturated fats, like those in olive oil -- seemed to help prevent tummy-expanding over time. Another bonus; the fat-focused diet helped people maintain better insulin sensitivity, too. Not so with the high-carb diet, which seemed to encourage body fat to relocate to people's bellies.
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