New Beginnings Ezine
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— and as usual, a few of my favorite quotes:
"You don't need anybody to tell you who you are or what you are.
what you are!”
— John Lenon
"The major problems in the world are the result of the difference between how nature works and the way people think."
— Gregory Batesonr
"I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy.
Today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it.."
— Groucho Marx
"The only limit to our realization
of tomorrow will be our doubts
— Franklin D. Roosevelt
"I choose my friends for their good looks, my acquaintances for their good characters, and my enemies for their intellects. A man cannot
be too careful in the choice of
— Oscar Wilde
"Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for."
— Joseph Addison
"The willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life
is the source from which
— Joan Didion
"The pessimist sees difficulty
in every opportunity.
The optimist sees the opportunity
in every difficulty."
— Winston Churchill
"When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that it is his duty."
— George Bernard Shaw
"It may be necessary temporarily
to accept a lesser evil, but one
must never label a necessary
evil as good."
— Margaret Mead
"A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour."
Welcome to the December newsletter. I hope it finds you all not too stressed and doing well. December brings the “holidays” and they can be stressful on so many levels and frequently that stress is something we totally bring on ourselves.
In addition, I know that getting together with our “loved ones” can just be the hardest thing in the world to do; or at least that’s how it seems. People telling us who we should be or what we should be doing or who we should be with or just letting us know how so very disappointed in us they are. But, even if we are lucky and do not have to deal with loved ones like that, sometimes we burden ourselves by trying to maintain traditions that aren’t necessary or by spending money we don’t have.
It may not seem like it, but you are the one who has control over this situation. Obviously, you have control over your own actions if you choose, but even more than that, you have control over how you allow people to treat you and what you allow them to say. The article this month is offered to give you a bit of advice and help in this area.
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Stuck (or not?)
Have you ever felt stuck? You know, that nasty feeling that there’s nothing you can do about a situation you find yourself in. I know I have. I used to feel that way often. Then one day I decided to go back to school and become a hypnotherapist. Now I am happy to say the feeling doesn’t come very often at all and the occasional time when it does I now have the tools to do something about it.
According to the laws of physics, there is no such thing as being 'stuck'. Energy is constantly in motion. If you understand that, then you can begin to realize that this feeling of being stuck is just that, a feeling. It isn’t a physical reality (although it sure can feel like one). Also, though, since energy attracts like energy (sort of like a magnet) look at your outer world (the people, things and situations you find yourself in) and think of it as a mirror and you will see a direct reflection of what is going on inside you. It is important to keep in mind that your environment is always a reflection on the present moment, never a reflection or acting in response to energy from your past.
You can try to blame your childhood, you can blame your “ex”, you can blame all sorts of things from your past; but the truth is that what you are thinking this very moment is what determines the energy you attract into your life right now and becomes the life you are living.
For example, if you are having a problem with money, it is more likely that every morning you wake up and you focus on the feeling of being in debt than it is that you wake up focusing on how much you have. You think about the lack of money and you think about need and you begin to tighten up. You think about the future and you tighten up even more. You try to think about a solution to change the situation but all you can think about is the fear and need you perceive as you life and you tighten up even more.
Every morning you wake up and declare that you are “stuck” in debt.
Or, let’s say that you have come to the conclusion that there is a problem in your relationship, or perhaps in all your relationships. Whether you feel that your mother criticizes you too much; your husband, wife or lover is aloof; your child is belligerent or your boss is a jerk, by holding onto those thoughts, keeping them close at all times, you bring those thoughts and that conclusion with you every time you think about them and you bring them to every relationship you have or think about having.
You feel “stuck”. If you expect to be treated badly you will look for any action that justifies your belief. You may even sometimes (by your own actions) cause the anticipated nastiness to occur. It is what we refer to as a self-fulfilling prophecy; and it gives you the opportunity of saying “I told you so” (which we do seem to enjoy).
If you think about it with complete honesty, you know there are those times when you’ve picked a fight or done that one thing that can make your mother criticize you, or force your significant other to walk away or your boss to get angry or your children to rebel.
Just remember this “Nothing is Ever Stuck.”
If you find the same situations appearing over and over again, the same repeating external circumstances that merely mirror your old set of expectations, then you are doing nothing more than bringing the same vibrational energy to bear in a potentially new situation. Don’t forget that the more you say something to yourself, the more you make it a reality in your subconscious. Your subconscious takes whatever you say as truth and endeavors to give it to you; thereby affecting what you say and how you act.
If you wake up today focusing on debt, you'll attract more debt for tomorrow. If you wake up today affirming an illness, you'll have that same illness or even worse tomorrow and next week. If you expect your spouse or lover to forget your anniversary or birthday again, you'll be setting the stage for a similar confrontation every year you are together.
As Abraham Hicks explains: "Sometimes we hear you say 'I'm stuck' and we say 'No you're not stuck, because you cannot stand still. You cannot stop emitting a vibration so it is not possible you are stuck. Instead what is happening is that you are creating the
same thing over and over again. It's changing but it's changing to the same thing — "
So, how can you feel unstuck? It’s actually quite simple; you need to make room for change. You don’t even have to create change; you simply need to make room for the possibility of something different. Allow the Universe to bring you a slightly different
experience tomorrow and the next day and the day after that. Allow for the possibility that you may be partly responsible for this feeling you have, you may have created it and allow for the possibility that if you created it, you can un-create it and create something far better.
A good place to begin is by making a list of the areas in your life that feel stuck.
Take this list and consider those areas where you may have been, even if inadvertently, holding these situations in place and then allow for the possibility that you do have the power to change your thoughts thereby changing what surrounds you and your environment.
An innovative neurosurgeon and a pioneering health researcher, Norm Shealy and Dawson Church have authored “Soul Medicine”. I mention them here because this book was written and demonstrates that it is your consciousness “… that holds the key to your well-being, and that small shifts in energy and awareness can produce major shifts in health. …has the potential to dramatically reduce suffering, extend life, and transform the health of our entire civilization.”
By using hypnosis and working from the inside out, you can directly speak to your conscious and subconscious mind and this process of transformation and healing can take place even faster. Not only that, you feel amazing after a hypnosis session, you really do.
The most astonishing evidence of just what the mind can do comes from research on healing. In a pilot study published in 1999, Harvard University psychologist Carol Ginandes, Ph.D., showed that hypnosis can help broken bones heal faster. In a follow-up experiment published last year, Ginandes and her research team found that women who'd had breast reduction surgery recovered more quickly after undergoing hypnosis.
During the sessions, the women were encouraged to think of pain as "sensations of healing" and to visualize their incisions "knitting together rapidly and becoming strong, smooth, and elastic." An independent team of surgeons and nurses later examined the women and reviewed photographs of the incisions that were taken 1 week and 7 weeks after surgery. The group's judgment: Patients who had received hypnosis were farther along the road to recovery. "We're not just talking about people simply feeling better." Ginandes says. "We're talking about structural tissue healing. Hypnosis, our results suggest, can influence the body to heal itself."
Hypnosis can't make you do things you don’t want, but it can make you more receptive to suggestions. Patients who suffer from panic attacks, for example, can be encouraged to think of frightening situations in new and less alarming ways. Pain sufferers, meanwhile, can move their perception of pain from the foreground of their minds to the background, says University of Washington psychologist David Patterson, Ph.D. And, the truth is, for most people, it doesn’t matter why it works, it is only important that it does.
December 25th is Christmas; why not make it a declaration of independence from tyranny, maybe it’s time to clear away some or the trash that’s been building up in your subconscious, make room for change. In the process, perhaps you’ll discover just how wonderful freedom feels.
Linda Simmon C.Ht.
- 3 Steps to Coping with Stress
By Mehmet C. Oz, MD, and Michael F. Roizen, MD
You've read plenty of hard-times headlines. Heck, you've probably had a few yourself. If you're not unemployed or having trouble paying the mortgage, we bet you know someone who is. Take a deep breath, and don't let tough setbacks do you in. When life hands you a lemon, forget making lemonade. We've found three newly proven ways to help make each day better and get your life back on track.
Give it a positive twist. Experts call it "positive reframing." Translation: Whatever hits the fan, look for the upside. Fault finding and blame games won't fix anything. In fact, they'll make you old fast. Yep. One key to successful aging lies in tapping that positive frame of mind as often as possible. Lost your job? Determine to find a new one with a shorter commute. Burned the dinner? Whole-grain cereal and berries splashed with nonfat milk is quick, delish, and likely lower cal.
Accept what happened. Not so easy? Try this: Acknowledge the problem, but add an upbeat mantra, such as, "Change presents opportunity. Seize it!" Repetition works because it's positive reinforcement. Also, if you make it a habit to see the glass as half full, you'll be 30% less likely to develop heart disease!
Inject some humor. Laughing helps by decreasing stress hormones and boosting your immune system. Turn on a funny movie or go to YouTube and watch videos of babies or cats doing crazy things (it never gets old). Go on, yuck it up. Get ready for life's next adventure.
- Take the Stress out of Arthritis
Did you know that your emotions can affect your joint health? It's true.
Negative emotions like chronic stress, worry, and anxiety not only reduce your quality of life but also may make your joint pain feel worse. And if you've got osteoarthritis, your body already has plenty to deal with without weathering the added burden of a lousy mood.
So the next time you struggle to get out of a chair or mount a flight of stairs, think about ways to turn around those feelings of frustration, anxiety, or sadness. Here are a few highly effective stress-quelling strategies you may want to try. Talk them over with your doctor.
If you've ever treated yourself to a therapeutic massage, you already know how wonderful it feels. But it's a top-notch stress soother, too. In fact, studies suggest that massage can relieve both musculoskeletal pain and the emotional stress that may come with it.
Massage has even been shown to reduce blood pressure in some people. Just get some input from your doctor first to make sure the method you choose won't exacerbate joint pain or inflammation.
Devotees regularly report a sublimely delicious state of deep relaxation after practicing yoga. And studies suggest that the stretching and strengthening benefits derived from yoga -- especially lyengar yoga -- may also help with pain and disability from osteoarthritis of the knee.
This ancient Eastern exercise has long been called a "moving meditation," and although more study is needed, research suggests that tai chi may reduce pain and improve physical function in people with knee OA.
Don't buy into the myth that regular exercise worsens osteoarthritis. Nothing could be further from the truth. But that doesn't mean you should be playing ice hockey or running marathons.
Low-impact forms of exercise, like a brisk walk or a bike ride in the park, will nourish the cartilage in the joints as well as your mood. You need just 30 minutes of moderately intense exercise to up the production of feel-good brain chemicals in your brain.
Progressive muscle relaxation
This quick and convenient stress-reducer is especially great for tight budgets and schedules. All you need is a few minutes to ease pain and stress with this activity. And it's free. Click here for how .
Research suggests that Zen and other forms of mindfulness meditation may help alleviate chronic pain and the emotional uneasiness that comes from dealing with pain.
Think of your muscles relaxing and unfurling like ribbons. Guided imagery like this can be a powerful tool in quieting negative thoughts and feelings and replacing them with positive ones. A moment or two each day may be all you need. Find your happy place in your mind, and go there often.
Cognitive behavioral therapy and other forms of one-on-one or group counseling can help alleviate anxiety and depression -- whatever their underlying cause may be. Ask your doctor for a referral.
Take Your Joy Back
Whatever the state of your joint health, your mind is a powerful tool that can help you not only cope but thrive, too. So stay focused on the things that make you feel good, inside and out. If you find yourself struggling emotionally despite your own best efforts, talk to your doctor about your medical treatment options.
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