Autumn (in the Northern Hemisphere) and New Beginnings.
Welcome to the October newsletter and I hope it finds you all doing well.
The day when the Sun rises exactly east is called the 'Equinox' because it brings days and nights of equal length. The end of September brings such an Equinox. The two equinoxes are a natural time for rebalancing. That may be one reason why in spring we feel an urge to clean and why now so many of us may feel an urge to set our lives straight. This is an excellent time for us to think about and reinforce a sense of balance within ourselves and our lives.
This is also the time when I start thinking about the holidays that are approaching.
I have always loved the holidays, pretty much everything from Halloween up to (but not including) New Year’s Eve; however, I am reminded regularly by news stories and by my clients that there are many, many people who suffer during the holidays. I myself have found that the last couple of years my enjoyment of the holidays hasn’t been as great as it used to be. A feeling of isolation can overwhelm us, any of us, at any time, but I think the holidays are when this feeling of isolation and even depression is magnified. I have come to realize that recently I have forgotten my own lessons and that I need to be reminded of them myself regularly. So a few of my thoughts that I hope will help make this holiday season better for all of us.
By Linda Simmon, C.Ht.
Americans have a third fewer close friends and confidants than just two decades ago - a sign that people may be living lonelier, more isolated lives than in the past.
In 1985, the average American had three people in whom to confide matters that were important to them, says a study in today's American Sociological Review. In 2004, that number dropped to two, and one in four had no close confidants at all.
"You usually don't see that kind of big social change in a couple of decades," says study co-author Lynn Smith-Lovin, professor of sociology at Duke University in Durham, N.C.
Close relationships are a safety net, she says. "Whether it's picking up a child or finding someone to help you out of the city in a hurricane, these are people we depend on."
Also, research has linked social isolation and loneliness to mental and physical illness.
The study finds fewer contacts are from clubs and neighbors; people are relying more on family, a phenomenon documented in the 2000 book Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam, a Harvard public policy professor.
The percentage of people who confide only in family increased from 57% to 80%, and the number who depend totally on a spouse is up from 5% to 9%, the study found. "If something happens to that spouse or partner, you may have lost your safety net," Smith-Lovin says.
Also, people have far more entertainment tools such as smart phones, TV, iPods and computers, so they can stay home and tune out. The Internet is a major cause for isolation. We must make an effort to keep personal contact, confidants, etc. It is important to actually hear another human voice and to see another face. Texting is a great, fast way to send a message, but it doesn’t and can’t replace an actual conversation. I cannot stress how important it is to talk to each other.
There is definitely a link between fulfillment and friends or family or loved ones. Let’s face it, not all of us have great families, but if we don’t, it becomes even more important to have close friends or to “make your own family”. Not that our happiness is dependent on others, but that having them makes a more well rounded, balanced full life. We cannot be happy, fulfilled and be completely isolated. Touching, talking, sharing are crucial elements to joy and happiness. This is also an area where having a pet can help you tremendously. Hug your dog, cat, talk to your bird or fish, whatever, you will feel much less isolated and alone; and you can make your pets your family as well. There’s nothing wrong with that and don’t let anybody tell you there is.
The past is where we have been and we learn from it. It can guide us on this journey of our life, teaching us and helping us realize what we want, who we are and where we want to be. The future is yet to come and we can dream about it and visualize how wonderful it will be allowing those dreams and images to guide us in that direction. But what about now? This moment? The present? This is where we exist, this is where we actually live this life we’ve been given and it is meant to be enjoyed. Laugh, love, giggle, play, dance, swim, read, nap, do whatever gives you joy and whatever allows you to relax fully. At least once a day remind yourself about this. Make it a habit. Do at least one thing that gives you pleasure.
If you do not, then you’ve lost your “now”, the “present” and eventually you’ll find yourself in a sort of limbo land of work, wishes, dreams, dissatisfaction and not quite reachable goals but rarely will you feel the satisfaction of a job well done or a life well lived. You can’t because the job is never really done and the living isn’t happening. Worse than that, you’ll feel as if you are simply existing, not even coming close to experiencing all that this world has to offer you.
Our hopes, dreams and goals are the things that get us moving forward. They guide us toward the right path and show us the life we want to live. This is a great thing, but not the only thing. We must remember how to be a kid again. How to enjoy the moment completely, fully. We must allow this creation of life that we have set in motion to unfold and present us with the unlimited possibilities that are available. Possibilities we will begin to see even more clearly when we can reconnect with the child in each of us and can freely laugh, love and play, play with your dog or cat or child or partner. Just play sometimes not everything has to be about work. Play is crucial to your happiness and fulfillment.
We each do create our own reality with our thoughts so be careful what you not only think about, but listen to and watch because it all affects our thoughts.
Next month I’ll write more about fulfillment and how to find it.
Linda Simmon C.Ht.
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