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— and as usual, a few of my favorite quotes:
“You are going to let the fear of poverty govern you life and your reward will be that you will eat, but you will not live.”
— George Bernard Shaw
“I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which have never happened.”
— Mark Twain
“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood.”
— Eleanor Roosevelt
“Life is a game. A game consists of freedom, barriers and purposes.”
— L. Ron Hubbard
“Believe you can, believe you can't
- either way, you're right.”
— Dale Carnegie
“We choose our joys and our sorrows long before we
— Kahlil Gilbran (Sand and Foam)
“Live in today rather than yesterday. Your past is not
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.”
— Marianne Williamson
“Sadness is but a wall
between two gardens.”
— Kahlil Gilbran (Sand and Foam)
“It takes both the sun and the rain
to make a beautiful rainbow.”
Welcome to my March newsletter. I hope you all are surviving these critical times. I know it may not feel like it now, but if we all just hang in there (without fear), things will get better; this is a uniquely creative time to grow and move forward stronger and better than before if we can just leave the fear behind.
March is the time of the Spring or Vernal Equinox which occurs on March 20 and is one of the four great solar festivals of the year. Day and night are equal, poised and balanced, ready to slip over to the side of light in the Northern Hemisphere and dark in the Southern. The spring equinox is sacred to dawn, youth, the morning star, the east and new life.
Let me start by apologizing to my friends in the Southern Hemisphere where Autumn is starting. It is Spring up here and we are leaving the dark days and moving into the light. That is where my focus will be, but it is important to remember that there are only two days a year in which the entire world can celebrate this perfect balance of light and dark. Think about the balance of a day where the light and dark are perfectly equal and then think about your life and where you can use a bit more balance.
I think one of the reasons we are in this current financial and ecological crisis is because of the imbalance we, as a species, have been practicing and the power we have given so freely to greedy people and their constant desire for more. Bigger profits, more toys, more food, more fast food, more gas, more, more and even more. Bigger and faster cars, bigger and more costly houses (which, at least here in the U.S. backfired), electronics that are obsolete in a year, new clothes, new shoes, new, new and new.
How did we get here? This may surprise you, but we got here because of fear. Fear that someone just might have something better than you. They might have more stuff, a bigger better car, a bigger house, the latest flat screen, more fun, a hotter girlfriend or lover and that list can go on and on. I imagine that right about now you might be saying, “but that’s not about fear, that’s just being selfish or greedy”.
When you look down deeper below the surface of greed, need and selfishness, it all boils down to fear and fear is really about pain. Emotional pain that is so severe it actually can cause us physical pain. The pervasive feeling that if we don’t have that one thing we want or need, it could somehow, someway hurt us so much (physically and emotionally) that we won’t be able to stand it; maybe not even live without it!
It is this kind of backward thinking that has allowed our fear to practically destroy our planet and ourselves. So, keeping that in mind, this is a good time to focus on the balance that our planet, our universe and our subconscious is telling us we need. The balance of light and dark. The balance of need and fulfillment, action and rest, work and play and always, the balance we should strive for internally, that emotional and mental balance that is true satisfaction.
And, to help you with any fear issues that you may have (and we’ve all got at least one), here is an article I published regarding that very issue.
Is Fear Holding You Back?
By Linda Simmon, C.Ht.
I get many clients who come to me because they have found that they can’t seem to stick with their resolutions or reach their goals and they ask my help in figuring out why and helping them break through their barriers. I thought you all might benefit from the following suggestions and thoughts:
January is long over and many people are feeling overwhelmed by those New Years resolutions and goals that they made. Even if you didn’t make formal resolutions, most of us seem to use the New Year to think about what we accomplished during the year and what we want to achieve in this new year. It may be a new job or taking your business to the next level, losing some weight, quitting a bad habit such as smoking, paying off credit cards or spending more time with loved ones. For many it isn't just one goal, but a list of goals and hopes that will make your life better. Then, towards the end of January, we begin to feel overwhelmed or disappointed because we aren't moving forward as quickly as we would like. Perhaps this is a repeating theme in your life.
This is a good time to look at the limiting themes that have repeated themselves in your life. These limiting themes tend to be repeated as a result of fear. Fear of change, fear of failure, even worse, fear of success. And maybe that was okay in the past, maybe you needed that fear for a while for any number of reasons, but isn’t it time to let go and move beyond the fear now? Isn’t it time for you to move into the happy, healthy and joyous life that you deserve?
Do you really believe that you can create the financial life you want to live this year? Fall completely and deeply in love? Receive a big promotion or find your dream job? You know, those things in life that make you wake up with a smile on your face energized and ready to tackle each and every morning in anticipation of the wonderful and amazing opportunities that are coming your way! Or have you put a lid on your dreams, blocked your hopes and allowed yourself to become resigned to settling for less. Less in the current state of your finances, relationships, career and health because you are afraid of failing, afraid of disappointment.
One of the most pivotal steps in improving your life from the inside out is the ability to open your channels of desire and to clearly define what it is that you most want. For many people this is an uncomfortable process.
Because so many of us believe that having unfulfilled desires will cause us pain, we have chosen, instead, to bury our desires to put a lid on them and hide them deep within our subconscious. We may be able to imagine things getting a little better here and there but, for the most part, we are afraid to dream, afraid to believe and afraid to hope.
As children we were free to play, pretend and let our imaginations soar. But, as we grew older, we were told to leave those dreams behind. We were told to grow up, stop playing games and to keep our focus on the real world, the world of “adults”. Limit your expectations to things that are realistically possible and that way you won’t be disappointed.
As a result of being told this over and over or watching our parents, friends and lovers live this kind of life, many of us both conscious and subconscious came to the conclusion that, in order to be an adult, have a reasonably happy life, and grow up, we are better off not wanting too much and most definitely we’d better not play. We became experts at repressing our desires and burying our dreams. We grew afraid of disappointment and embraced fear and limitation. But remember this: “If you do not think about the future, you cannot have one.” ~ John Galsworthy
The real truth, the reality of this world we live in is that desire is the life force of energy streaming through us. It is our desires that keep us alive and magnetic. People without strong desires slowly whither away, living only shadow lives of whom they were and who they were meant to be. The more we allow the energy of desire to flow through us, the more vibrant and alive we become, the more connected we feel, and life just gets better and better.
So here are some constructive ideas of how to overcome that overwhelmed feeling and move away from fear:
If you haven’t done so already, write down your goals and if you did write them down, get out your list and read it again.
Take another look at each goal and ask yourself if you really want to have this goal at this time. Be honest. Don’t keep a goal on the list because someone else thinks you need to do it, or because you think it is the kind of goal you are supposed to have. Your goals must be your very own. Something that is important to you right now. There is no reason you can’t add a goal back to the list at some future time when it is right.
Review the remaining list and set interim steps towards your goals that help you work up to them. As an example, if your goal is to run a marathon, set the distance goals over time that will build your endurance to the level you need to achieve.
- Remember the Power of Affirmations. Say affirmations daily!
And if you haven’t already discovered this, affirmations are a wonderful tool to help change beliefs and patterns that can get in the way of achieving your goals. I have found that the most effective way to use affirmations is to both say them aloud and write them out.
When you say your affirmations out loud, you are giving instructions to your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind gives all messages equal weight and doesn’t differentiate between fact or fiction, so giving it more positive input in the form of verbal affirmations works to counteract any negative input we are receiving from others or from ourselves. Writing your affirmations out allows you to focus more clearly on what you have just said, making it easier to create a visual image in your mind.
Here are some suggestions on working with affirmations:
Say and/or write your affirmations out several times a day.
When you do this, actually use the moment to visualize what you are saying or writing. Affirmations work best when you create the reality for yourself each time you use them. If necessary, reinforce your commitment to say your affirmations by posting them on your bathroom mirror, your computer, the steering wheel of your car, your refrigerator or anyplace that you have to look at regularly.
State your affirmations in the present tense because your subconscious is quite literal.
If you say something like, “I’m going to quit smoking,” or, “I will lose weight.” the message sent to your mind, the reality created is that you will get there someday, but not necessarily now. You want your subconscious to believe it is happening now so use phrases like, “I am a non-smoker,” or, “I am thin and fit.”
State your affirmations in the positive.
Always create an image of what you want in your life, not what you want to avoid. So say something like, “I am in a happy and exciting relationship,” rather than, “I don’t want to be with anyone who makes me miserable again.” Or say, “I handle my daily stress easily and in healthy ways,” rather than, “I won’t smoke when I’m under stress.”
Since your subconscious is an excellent tool for creating reality, be clear and exact about the reality you say you want. Don’t simply say, “I have a new car”, when you mean to say, “I have a new red sports car with a sunroof and air conditioning and an awesome stereo system.”
Your affirmation should make you feel as if you just got a little electrical shock.
If it doesn’t make you slightly uncomfortable or make you think, “yeah, right,” when you first say it, then you’ve picked an affirmation that isn’t right for you. You’ve chosen something too easy to acquire. Don’t let fear hold you back. But if it makes you feel a little uncomfortable, then that means you are on the right track. You are working to re-program your subconscious mind with new information and positive thoughts. If you aren't getting a jolt then you are playing it safe and letting fear hold you back again.
- Revise your affirmations as needed; to make sure they fit what your current goals are especially as you move further and further away from fear and your goals get bigger and better.
- Remember, enlist support. Many of us are reluctant to ask for help and support, even though we would gladly give it if asked. Don’t be afraid to talk to or call a friend, parent, life coach or whomever and ask for support. Support can come in many forms: encouragement, doing something together, talking about how to overcome a particular obstacle, laughing, crying and so on. If you have not asked for support much in the past, push yourself to ask for help now.
Linda Simmon C.Ht.
|And, just a little something I’d like to add to the above suggestions. Look into incorporating a bit of Yoga into your life. This, perhaps above all else will help bring balance to both your physical body and your mind. You’ll be glad you did!
Fear and stress or intrinsically connected, this health tip is to help you understand some of the other dangers of stress.
How Stress Increases Your Risk of Heart Disease
Did you know that a small amount of stress is good for you? It helps motivate you to get things done. Too much stress can have the opposite effect, increasing your risk for everything from backaches and headaches to heart disease and even the common cold. In fact, men who persistently experience moderate levels of stress have a 50% higher mortality rate. That's why it's so important to reduce stress if it's gotten out of hand.
Part of the reason chronic stress is bad for you is it encourages unhealthy habits, such as eating junk food. Unfortunately, most people don't take solace in a bowl of kale. When stressed, your body releases the hormone cortisol, which increases insulin levels, making you crave fatty and sugary carbohydrates.
You may also feel like you don't have the time or energy to exercise. You may not spend as much time with family or friends, or you may lean on vices, such as smoking and drinking, to reduce stress. Over time, these behaviors can lead to high cholesterol, obesity, and high blood pressure -- all risk factors for heart disease. Because chronic stress can sap the immune system and increase your heart disease risk, eating a nutrient-rich diet and getting regular exercise can help blunt the effects of stress.
According to Marc Gillinov, heart surgeon at the Cleveland Clinic and coauthor of the book Heart 411, there's a strong connection between emotional stress and heart disease. "Emotional stress can trigger a heart attack in people with heart disease," he says. "It may also contribute to the development of heart disease."
Repeated bouts of anger -- like when you're cut off in traffic or you spill coffee on your keyboard -- are linked to thickening of the arteries and the development of plaque. Men who frequently display anger over time appear to have a greater risk of heart disease. People who are pessimistic, cynical, anxious, or depressed don't fare much better. In fact, most negative emotions have been associated with a greater risk of heart disease. Chronic job stress alone may double the risk of fatal heart attack.
Reduce Stress to Live Younger
Your mental outlook on life is closely connected to your physical health. When you can't cope, everyday pressures have a way of getting under our skin -- sapping our energy and spoiling our mood. Over time, chronic stress can even lead to emotional issues, such as anxiety and depression. "Stress that makes you feel sad, angry, or disempowered tends to do the most damage," says David Katz, MD, director of the Prevention Research Center at Yale University School of Medicine.
We've all heard about the power of positive thinking. Learning how to stay upbeat can help reduce stress and may even help prevent serious conditions, such as heart disease. The most crucial element in staying positive may be learning how to avoid negative, destructive thinking when you fail. Everyone experiences setbacks in life, and being able to bounce back -- without beating yourself up -- is one of the most effective ways to beat stress and its effects on your health. Here's the best benefit: Taking steps to manage stress can make your RealAge up to 2.4 years younger.
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