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... and as usual, a few of my favorite quotes, although this month, you’ll notice a slightly different flavor to them and I hope, one or two might make you chuckle:

This is an exchange between Churchill & Lady Astor:

She said, "If you were my husband I'd give you poison."
He said, "If you were my wife, I'd drink it."


A Member of Parliament to Disraeli,"Sir, you will either die on the gallows or of some unspeakable disease."

"That depends, Sir," said Disraeli, "whether I embrace your policies or your mistress."

"He has all the virtues I dislike and none
of the vices I admire."
Winston Churchill

"I have never killed a man, but I have read many obituaries with
great pleasure.!
"
— Clarence Darrow

“I didn't attend the funeral, but I sent a nice letter saying I approved of it.
— Mark Twain

"He has no enemies,
but is intensely disliked by his friends."

— Oscar Wilde

I am enclosing two tickets to the first night of my new play; bring a friend.... if you have one", George Bernard Shaw wrote to Winston Churchill.
Winston Churchill’s response,
Cannot possibly attend first night, will attend second.... if there is one."

“I feel so miserable without you; it's almost like having you here.”
— Stephen Bishop

“II've just learned about his illness. Let's hope
it's nothing trivial.”

— Irvin S. Cobb

“He is not only dull himself; he is the cause
of dullness in others.”
Samuel Johnson

“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go.”
— Oscar Wilde

“I've had a perfectly  wonderful evening.
But this wasn't it.”
— Groucho Marx

Welcome to my June newsletter. If you do not usually read through to the Health Tips, please make sure you do today. There’s a whole bunch of good information and tips and most of it centers on feeling good about yourself and being happy.

Before you get to there, though, I wanted to give you a few of my own thoughts.

It is important to understand that what we think, what we say to ourselves or how we perceive a situation is actually considered as a fact by our subconscious. Your subconscious does not use critical thinking to filter fact from fiction and this is why it is so crucial to say, think and focus as much as you can on only those things that you want in your life. Note that I said those things you want. Too often we end up focusing on the things that we do not want into our life. We may think to ourselves “I want a happy, fulfilled life” and believe that we are thinking positive thoughts. But if we actually analyze our thoughts we usually find that what we really think to ourselves is something more like this: “I want a happy, fulfilled life. I don’t want to be around negative people, I’m tired of being unhappy or disappointed in my relationships. I’m tired of feeling stressed and under pressure; I just want to be happy.”

What is actually being said here? Look at it, look at the words. Pretty much it deals with what is not wanted! It is all about those things that you want to move away from rather than the things that you want to move towards. The subconscious doesn’t register the difference between “do” and “don’t”. What it does understand, though, are all those bigger thoughts such as “negative people”, “unhappy”, “disappointed in my relationships”, “stressed”, “tired”, etc.

More and more doctors and patients recognize that depression and physical well-being are intimately connected. An unhealthy body can lead to depression, and depression can trigger or worsen diseases in the body. Fixing one problem can often help the other.

Simply knowing something intellectually and consciously is a good first step, however that alone gives you very little power. When you can take that knowledge, a truth or a positive thought, image or suggestion and internalize it by using hypnosis to speak directly to your subconscious, it can then become a part of you on a quantum cellular level. This gives you the ability and the empowerment to change anything in your life that you want changed. “Repeat a positive statement often enough and it will become ingrained in your subconscious” says Adrian Calabrese, Ph.D., Woman’s World, October 18, 2005, and Dr. Calabrese is so correct.

Linda Simmon, C.Ht.
Past Life Regressionist, Certified Hypnotherapist and Life Coach
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HEALTH TIPS

  • Add These to Your Sandwich to Stop Strokes
    Whether you're noshing on a lean turkey with tomato or a veggie delight, add these to your sandwich to reduce your risk of stroke - onions.

    Onions are brimming with flavonols, and new research suggests that these nutritional goodies could downsize the risk of stroke by as much as 20 percent. The key flavonol compounds for stroke prevention appear to be myricetin, apigenin, luteolin, kaempferol, and quercetin. But don't worry about pronouncing them. Just know that they have inflammation-cooling effects -- especially the quercetin -- and that translates into a lower risk of stroke-inducing blood clots. Flavonols also appear to relax and dilate blood vessels, another buffer against strokes.


    More Foods with Flavonols
    Tea seems to be the major source for flavonols in many people's diets, but if you're not a tea drinker, no worries. Onions contain a much more bioavailable form than tea does. Or get your flavonol fix from apples, broccoli, dark leafy greens, or berries.

There are many types of flavonoids, and their concentration in specific foods varies greatly, depending on how a product is grown and processed. So use the list below as a general guideline for foods that tend to be rich in flavonoids. Eating a diverse diet that regularly includes some of the following foods will provide you with a healthy helping of flavonoids.

Here's a list of flavonoid-rich foods:

Apples (flavonoids are in the skin)
Blueberries
Broccoli
Cabbage
Capers
Chocolate (dark, not milk) and cocoa
Onions
Red grapes
Red wine
Strawberries
Tea (all kinds)

  • A Live-Longer Strategy That Starts in Your Head
    Want to live longer? Then you better have a really good idea of what you're living for. In a study of older adults, those who lived a goal-driven life were 57 percent less likely to die during the 5-year study period -- compared with those who didn't have much direction or purpose. Exactly how does a Purpose protect you? Are you making plans for the future? Is there something that you're actively trying to achieve? Does your life have meaning? A resounding yes to these questions could mean you get more time on earth to accomplish things. Having a purpose in life was so helpful in a recent study that it even appeared to improve the longevity of people with depression, disabilities, chronic medical conditions, or financial difficulties.

Other Tools for a Longer Life
Having a purpose in life can boost your emotional well-being -- which in turn may lower the risk for chronic disease. Stay young, active, and driven with these simple additional live-longer habits:

    • Stand up. Sitting all day may take a bite out of your personal timeline.

    • Slack off. You might live longer if you indulge a few frivolous whims.

    • Load up. Foods high in vitamins C and E may lengthen your life.

Are you happy? Answering yes can help your health. Find a happier and healthier you with a few simple strategies. It's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life and lose sight of what makes you happy. Really happy. But making sure your happiness meter is giving optimal readings can provide many health benefits.

Happy people have younger hearts, younger arteries, and a younger RealAge. Happy people recover more quickly from surgery, cope better with pain, have lower blood pressure, and have longer life expectancy than unhappy people. Studies also suggest that happy people may have stronger immune systems -- they're less likely to get colds and flu viruses. And when they do, their symptoms tend to be mild. Not surprisingly, happy people are better at looking after their health, too. When people's happiness levels improve, so do their health behaviors.

So, how do you get there? Everyone says they want to be happy [although you might be surprised at the number of people who really do not want to be happy], and the benefits are clearly plentiful. But the fact is that people aren't always great at predicting what will make them happy. If it's long-term happiness you're after, you may need to learn a few new tricks.

We all know when we're happy and when we're not. But ask a roomful of people what makes them happy and you're likely to get a wide range of responses, from "watching the sunset" or "spending time with good friends" to "finding a great shoe sale" or "winning the office football pool."

Defining happiness is no simple feat. In an effort to narrow the definition, researchers have devised a series of questionnaires to measure life satisfaction, positive mood, and subjective well-being. Some scientists are even beginning to use brain imaging to better understand the physiology of happiness. And economists have jumped on the happiness bandwagon, too, hoping to calculate the value of happiness within a sociopolitical context.

So what have they discovered? What makes for a happy life? It's partly your genes.

Your level of happiness is not entirely predetermined by your genes, but genes do play a part, just as they play a part in your general health. Some researchers estimate that as much as 40% to 50% of a person's capacity for happiness may be genetically predetermined. And although that means some lucky people may start off with a greater propensity for happiness, it's no guarantee they'll lead a charmed life. Fortunately, evidence suggests that even the gloomiest of us can learn to be happier.

[Note. I’ve discovered that genes may play a part, but it is far more likely not to technically be genetic, but rather learned behavior and what we observed when growing up. The first 9 years of our life, we learn by observing those around us; not just skills, we learn what a relationship is like, how to communicate, how to emotionally deal with situations and to put it as simply as possible, we learn whether we think the glass is half full or half empty.]

And learn we must. Left to our own devices, we tend to focus our energies on things that will give us the greatest instant pleasure. Even when we know better. Think you know the secret to happiness? Check the happiness accuracy of some of these common answers. You might be surprised:

A Massage and Pamper Day at the Spa
Aahhh, yes. A day at the spa is not only pleasurable; it's also a great de-stressor. And keeping your stress levels under control will have a positive effect on your physical and emotional well-being.

Winning a Million Dollars
Winning a million bucks will make you instantly wealthy, that's for sure. But happy? Not so much.

Renting a Beach House for a Week with Your
Closest Friends

Spending quality time with good friends is one of the key components of a happy life. And taking time off to relax will also keep your stress levels low. But don't wait for rare opportunities like this to get together with your friends.

Losing 10 Pounds
It's important to your health and happiness to maintain a healthy weight. But yo-yo dieting and lose-weight-quick scams are likely to starve you of the happiness you're after.

World Peace
A noble aspiration, but you might want to start small—setting unrealistic goals may be a happiness deterrent. Do your part for peace by getting involved with an organization that promotes nonviolent conflict resolution or another peace-promoting issue you feel strongly about. Helping others and feeling a sense of purpose in life is linked to greater happiness.

Finally Getting the Garage Organized
It may not be glamorous but it certainly is gratifying. Cleaning out the clutter and creating a usable space will give you a sense of achievement that's guaranteed to boost your well-being.

Having Superhero Powers
Superhero powers would be super cool, without a doubt. But they might cause more stress than happiness. Plus, it's never going to happen. By focusing on more attainable goals, you'll be more likely to make them come true and that will make you happy.

A Long Walk (or Run) in the Park
Physical activity is a great way to instantly increase your sense of well-being. And by incorporating exercise into your daily routine you'll be both healthier and happier in the long run.

A Sharp Rise in the Value of Your Investments
It's wise to invest in your future but not so wise to link your happiness to the stock market. Contribute emotional capital to your relationships and personal growth and you may see a steady rise in your happiness levels.

Studies show that a person's health is one of the strongest predictors of happiness. But the link between health and happiness is complex. Research shows little correlation between a person's objective health -- as defined by medical assessment -- and happiness. It's our subjective health -- how we view or perceive our health -- that affects our well-being. So is happiness all in your head? Not necessarily. For example, adverse changes in health do have a negative impact on happiness levels, at least temporarily. Poor health has the potential to significantly affect almost every aspect of your life: your independence, your self-image, your personal relationships, and your ability to work and carry out basic daily activities. So it's no surprise that when your health takes a hit, your happiness does as well.

But people are resilient. We become accustomed to new life circumstances, good or bad. We adapt. Within a month or two of an adverse health event, most people have gravitated back toward the level of happiness they enjoyed before their health took a turn for the worse. When the change in health status is severe, however -- for example, involving chronic pain or multiple disabilities -- the impact on happiness can be long lasting.

And both physical health and emotional health influence happiness. Mood disorders diminish quality of life even more than chronic physical ailments, such as arthritis, heart disease, and diabetes. So, what can you do? Maintain a healthy lifestyle and you'll be well on your way to a long life rich in happiness.

Be your healthiest and happiest by eating a balanced diet with lots of fruit and veggies, keeping stress levels to a minimum, getting regular checkups, wearing sunscreen, laughing often, moderating alcohol intake, getting plenty of exercise, and not smoking. Exercise not only helps keep you healthy but also keeps you happy. In general, increasing the amount of physical activity in your life increases well-being, whether it's yoga, weight training, or daily walks around the neighborhood. One study of nearly 7,000 men and women revealed that walking, jogging, or running between 11 and 19 miles per week was optimal for improving emotional well-being. But don't overdo it or under do it. Moderate exercise offers the biggest boost in happiness.

And if you think you may be living with a mood disorder, get it treated. Appropriate treatment can help reduce your symptoms, increase your sense of well-being, and get you back on track to a happy life. Developing your social side is crucial for well-being. Studies show that people who are socially active, who are compassionate, and who are emotionally generous have higher levels of happiness and live longer than people who lead a more solitary life.

Research also shows that people who have strong interpersonal skills rank in the highest levels of happiness, and those who are socially isolated have substantially lower levels of well-being. Social skills are just one part of this happiness factor, though. People who maintain good personal relationships also fare better than people who are socially inactive. Open, trusting, intimate relationships are essential building blocks for a happy life. And it isn't only receiving support that makes us happy; it's being able to give support to others as well.

Of course, many see marriage as one of the ultimate social relationships. But studies on marriage and happiness are somewhat conflicting, and the causal relationship between the two is unclear. On average, people who are married tend to report higher levels of happiness than people who are not married. Unmarried people in committed relationships also tend to be happier than people in casual relationships.

But it's not clear if this is because people who are predisposed to being happy are more likely to marry, or because marriage itself makes people happier, or if there is still some other yet-to-be-discovered dynamic at play between marriage and happiness. Although observational studies clearly show an association between well-being and relationships, there is no evidence to prove that one causes the other. One theory for the correlation between happiness and marriage is that, compared with married people, people who aren't married tend to experience lower levels of social approval as well as fewer financial and social benefits. These factors may play a role in the lower levels of personal well-being reported by people who are not married.

So, what can you do about it?

When important personal relationships come to an end, it can have a lasting negative impact on happiness. So use your energies to nurture the relationships that mean the most to you. Not all relationships are meant to be, of course, and getting out of a destructive relationship can do more for your health and happiness than staying in it. But if it is within your power to make a good relationship work, you have every reason to try.

Keep all of your other personal relationships healthy, vibrant, and strong by spending quality time with friends and family. Make a standing date with the people you love -- it'll give you something to look forward to and help relieve stress levels. And while you're appreciating the people who are already near and dear, don't forget to welcome new friendships into your life. According to the founding father of positive psychology, Martin Seligman, a happy life is one that is pleasurable, engaging, and meaningful. And the more engaging and meaningful, the better. Seligman suggests that people who focus their energies on leading an engaged and meaningful life are more successful at achieving lifelong happiness than those who focus on the transitory feel-goods of pleasure.

Research appears to support his theories. A recent study revealed that participants' subjective well-being was directly affected by the fulfillment they derived from the activities they spent most of their energy on, whether that was raising children, working, or volunteering. Research on aging shows that being actively involved in life is linked to increased levels of happiness.

So, what can you do? Spend more time doing what you love. Engaging in activities that are in line with your values and interests can improve your sense of well-being. If you feel as though you've lost touch with what those activities might be, think about what captivates you so entirely that you lose yourself in the moment and forget about your stress. It's likely to be something you're good at that also provides you with a bit of a challenge or some kind of emotional reward. Some examples might be gardening, writing, painting, surfing, cycling, volunteering, or playing a musical instrument. If you can make your activities social, all the better. Whereas personal hobbies, such as quilting and knitting, have been linked to an increase in happiness, social activities have been associated with an increase in both happiness and life expectancy.

As you focus on bringing meaning to your life, be sure to set realistic, attainable goals. People who do so report being happier than people who focus on grandiose long-term goals. Being able to realize goals that reflect your personal values and interests can help reinforce your sense of autonomy, purpose, and achievement. This has been shown to contribute significantly to overall well-being.

Three More Ways to Get Happy:

  1. Forget the Joneses.
    Social comparison is a natural part of human behavior, and it can be a healthy source of both motivation and affirmation. But taken to the extreme, social comparison can become an unhealthy, unhappy competition. Try not to compare your successes to others. Happiness researchers identify this as a key detractor to life satisfaction. It can be especially harmful if you are making material comparisons.

    Some studies show that placing too much importance on material wealth can make people very unhappy. Just as people adapt to bad situations, they also adapt to good ones. With each new pay raise or purchase, aspirations also increase. People get used to the good life. Once the initial thrill of extra income and the latest luxuries wears off, they want more. Another raise, a faster car, a bigger house. It becomes a never-ending cycle that leaves people feeling perpetually unsatisfied.

  2. Share Your Skills.
    Giving back to the community and helping others is linked to greater levels of happiness, particularly for people who are retired or not employed. Volunteering in your community can provide a valuable social interaction, increase your sense of purpose, and, yes, make you happier. Check out the Network for Good website to search a database of volunteer organizations by zip code and area of interest.

  3. Do Your Happiness Homework.
    Seligman and his happiness colleagues have devised and tested a number of exercises to help boost well-being. Here are several activities that have been found to be most effective:

    • Take note of what's good in your life. Literally. Studies show that people who spend a few minutes every evening writing down what went well each day show a significant increase in well-being.

    • Tone-up your signature strengths.
      Signature strengths are the things you're really good at. Discover your signature strengths at www.authentichappiness.com. [Note, I took the happiness test which was very interesting. Answers to the questions will vary depending on current circumstances which change. To take the various tests offered, you need to register, but registration is free.] Once you know what your strengths are, try using one of them in a new way every day for a week.

    • Give gratitude.
      Write a letter of thanks to someone who has been particularly good to you or has had a profound impact on your life. Once the letter is written, deliver it personally to the recipient. If your gratitude letter has a long distance to travel, call the recipient to make sure it was received and tell the person on the phone how much you appreciate his or her presence in your life.

There is no mysterious magical formula that you have to follow exactly in order to achieve happiness. Happiness is a personal journey of self-discovery. What makes you happy is not necessarily the same as what makes your friend, your partner, or your son or daughter happy.

Experimenting with key happiness factors will help you find the combination that works for you. Just be sure to take stock now and then to see how your emotional health is doing. It's worth your time and attention. Not only does your health benefit from it, but there's nothing like a contented smile, a look of ease, and a few sexy laugh lines to make you look -- and feel -- years younger.



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