Welcome to my July newsletter. I hope it finds you all doing really well and if you aren’t doing too well right now, maybe you will be doing better shortly as a result of this newsletter.
Here in the U.S. we’ve just celebrated our independence day, July 4th. I don’t usually spend much time writing about something as limited as a U.S. holiday, but this newsletter is going to be a bit different than usual and I’ve decided to start by being a bit patriotic. For those of you who have no interest, stick with me, I’ve got something for everyone in this issue.
On July 4, 1776, we claimed our independence from Britain and Democracy was born. Our U.S. founding fathers risked everything (including horrible deaths as traitors) for a dream and because they were willing to do this, now every day thousands leave their homeland to come to the U.S. so they can begin to live their dream and live it in a democracy.
The United States is a diverse nation made up of dynamic people of all colors and beliefs. Each year on July 4th we celebrate our freedom and independence with barbecues, picnics, fireworks and family gatherings. It may seem a silly way to celebrate, but the truth is it’s a hell of a lot of fun and that’s what this edition is all about, feeling good and having fun. So, Happy Birthday, America!
In addition to watching the fireworks (and setting off a few legal ones myself) with my kids (both grown up adults), I’m going to continue my celebration with a few thoughts, ideas and suggestions for each of you on how to feel better and have a bit of fun every single day and I’m going to give each of you a gift.
A friend sent this little story to me and I enjoyed it so much that I wanted to share it with you all:
The Mayonnaise Jar and Two Cups of Coffee
When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the two cups of coffee.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous 'yes.'
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children,
your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.
The sand is everything else---the small stuff. 'If you put this into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.
If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you. 'Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care
of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities.
The rest is just sand.'
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.'
The coffee just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.'
Thank you Brisa for sharing this with me.
I realized that I forgot to include my little astrology section last month so this month let me share a bit about Gemini and Cancer for each of you.
Every Gemini is a dreamer of dreams. Geminis are the zodiac's perpetual children - refusing to betray their innocent faith in the possibility of a happier world for all.
This deep inner well of simple, trusting enthusiasm makes every Gemini a potentially powerful person. Never try to argue with a Gemini - unless you can handle a conversation that sweeps wildly from one subject to another, like a sort of intellectual roller-coaster. Geminis love a good debate and to ask questions. They're never afraid to probe people on subjects others would diplomatically avoid.
Geminis suffer from intermittent dark moods which happily, don't last long and they're soon ready to communicate again. You can say things to a Gemini which most other people would consider crazy - and find yourself being taken seriously. Likewise, you can expect to hear the oddest ideas being earnestly expressed by your Gemini friend.
Geminis can be exasperating because they prefer thoughts to feelings. They try to rationalize things which can't be rationalized, like love, affection, sorrow or desire. This can lead to misunderstanding but sometimes leads to brilliant, original insights.
Cancerians are the zodiac's most sensitive souls. They cannot help but feel concern for, their fellow humans. They are never happier than when making someone else happy, never sadder than when they fear they have inadvertently caused hurt. Cancerians frequently like to play it safe. They have powerful emotions. Sometimes they feel the need to hide from those emotions by acting out. When a Cancerian feels strong attraction, all caution flies out of the window. Consequently, Cancerians spend their lives trying to re-stabilize between the last big upheaval and the next. In the attempt to be steady and settled, Cancerians can let people take them for granted. But when one of those strong inner urges surfaces, they'll overthrow everything and take breathtaking risks. They justify it with the hope that their action will lead to stability and better circumstances. It's useless speaking to them about common sense when they're in the throes of passion. They'd have to ignore you. For, while Cancerians are good at looking after others, they hate to be told what to do!
And now, I decided not to have a guest article this month but instead share some thoughts of my own. So, please enjoy this article I’ve written for all of you.
Linda Simmon, C.Ht.
Stuck (or not)
Have you ever felt stuck? You know, that nasty feeling that there’s nothing you can do about a situation you find yourself in. I know I have. I used to feel that way often. Then one day I decided to go back to school and become a hypnotherapist. Now I am happy to say the feeling doesn’t come very often at all and the occasional time when it does I now have the tools to do something about it.
I’m going to do something in this issue I’ve never done before, I’m going to give you all the link to a downloadable session, this is the gift I referred to earlier. A session designed to make you feel better. Hypnosis is such a healing modality, what kind of a “feel good” newsletter would this be if I didn’t give each of you a chance to at least try it.
I also want to share a few thoughts with you.
According to the laws of physics, there is no such thing as being 'stuck'. Energy is constantly in motion. If you understand that, then you can begin to realize that this feeling of being stuck is just that, a feeling. It isn’t a physical reality (although it sure can feel like one). But it is also true that energy attracts like energy (sort of like a magnet) and that your outer world really is a direct reflection of what is going on inside you. It is important to keep in mind that your environment is never a reflection or acting in response to energy of the past, but only to the energy of the present moment.
You can try to blame your childhood, you can blame your “ex”, but the truth is that what you are thinking this very moment is what determines the energy you attract into your life right now and becomes the life you are living.
For example, if you are having a problem with money, it is more likely that every morning you wake up and you focus on the feeling of being in debt than it is that you wake up focusing on how much you have. You think about the lack of money and you think about need and you begin to tighten up. You think about the future and you tighten up even more. You try to think about a solution to change the situation but all you can think about is the fear and need you perceive as you life and you tighten up even more.
Every morning you wake up and declare that you are “stuck” in debt.
Or, let’s say that you have come to the conclusion that there is a problem in your relationship, or perhaps in all your relationships. Whether you feel that your mother criticizes you too much; your husband, wife or lover is aloof; your child is belligerent or your boss is a jerk, by holding onto those thoughts, keeping them close at all times, you bring those thoughts and that conclusion with you every time you think about them and you bring them to every relationship you have or think about having. You feel “stuck”.
If you expect to be treated badly you will look for any action that justifies your belief. You may even sometimes (by your own actions) cause the anticipated nastiness to occur. It is what we refer to as a self-fulfilling prophecy; and it gives you the opportunity of saying “I told you so” (which we do seem to enjoy).
If you think about it with complete honesty though, you know those times when you’ve picked a fight or done that one thing that can make your mother criticize you, or force your significant other to walk away or your boss to get angry or your children to rebel.
Just remember this “Nothing is Ever Stuck.”
If you find the same situations appearing over and over again, the same repeating external circumstances that merely mirror your old set of expectations, then you are doing nothing more than bringing the same vibrational energy to bear in a potentially new situation.
If you wake up today focusing on debt, you'll attract more debt for tomorrow. If you wake up today affirming an illness, you'll have that same illness or even worse tomorrow and next week. If you expect your spouse or lover to forget your anniversary or birthday again, you'll be setting the stage for a similar confrontation every year you are together.
As Abraham Hicks explains: "Sometimes we hear you say 'I'm stuck' and we say 'No you're not stuck, because you cannot stand still. You cannot stop emitting a vibration so it is not possible you are stuck. Instead what is happening is that you are creating the
same thing over and over again. It's changing but it's changing to the same thing..."
So, how can you feel unstuck? It’s very simple, really, you need to make room for change. You don’t have to create change, you simply need to make room for the possibility of something different. Allow the Universe to bring you a slightly different
experience tomorrow and the next day. Allow for the possibility that you may be partly responsible for this feeling you have, you may have created it and allow for the possibility that if you created it, you can un-create it and create something far better.
A good place to begin is by making a list of the areas in your life that feel stuck.
Take this list and consider those areas where you may have been, even if inadvertently, holding these situations in place and then allow for the possibility that you do have the power to change your thoughts thereby changing what surrounds you and your environment.
An innovative neurosurgeon and a pioneering health researcher, Norm Shealy and Dawson Church have authored “Soul Medicine”. I mention them here because this book was written and demonstrates that it is your consciousness “… that holds the key to your well-being, and that small shifts in energy and awareness can produce major shifts in health. …has the potential to dramatically reduce suffering, extend life, and transform the health of our entire civilization.”
By using hypnosis and working from the inside out, you directly speak to your conscious and subconscious mind and this process of transformation and healing can take place even faster. Not only that, you feel amazing after a hypnosis session, you really do.
The most astonishing evidence of just what the mind can do comes from research on healing. In a pilot study published in 1999, Harvard University psychologist Carol Ginandes, Ph.D., showed that hypnosis can help broken bones heal faster.
In a follow-up experiment published last year, Ginandes and her research team found that women who'd had breast reduction surgery recovered more quickly after undergoing hypnosis. During the sessions, the women were encouraged to think of pain as "sensations of healing" and to visualize their incisions "knitting together rapidly and becoming strong, smooth, and elastic."
An independent team of surgeons and nurses later examined the women and reviewed photographs of the incisions that were taken 1 week and 7 weeks after surgery. The group's judgment: Patients who had received hypnosis were farther along the road to recovery. "We're not just talking about people simply feeling better." Ginandes says. "We're talking about structural tissue healing. Hypnosis, our results suggest, can influence the body to heal itself."
Hypnosis can't make you do things they you want to do, but it can make you more receptive to suggestions. Patients who suffer from panic attacks, for example, can be encouraged to think of frightening situations in new and less alarming ways. Pain sufferers, meanwhile, can move their perception of pain from the foreground of their minds to the background, says University of Washington psychologist David Patterson, Ph.D. And, the truth is, for most people, it doesn’t matter why it works, it is only important that it does.
That is why I want to give each of you the opportunity of trying a recorded session. Clear away some or the trash that’s been building up in your subconscious, make room for change. Find yourself and discover just how wonderful freedom feels. That’s really what July 4th is all about, a celebration of freedom; whether from political tyranny or your own limited or negative thinking, it can be the freedom to get unstuck.
Linda Simmon, C.Ht
Feeling Good: It’s Not a Stretch
Who wouldn’t want to feel more energized and have a smile on their face all day? But short of popping some "happy pills," it seems there’s no easy way. Until now. Enter yoga. Yep, some simple yoga-style stretches and poses could do the trick.
People who did them for five weeks reported a lift in their moods and more spring in their steps. A type of yoga that focuses on mood-boosting poses seemed to be particularly helpful in raising spirits in a recent study. In fact, people’s moods not only generally improved about halfway through five weeks of doing Iyengar yoga, but posers also felt a bit better after class, too. Talk about instant gratification.
The Years Ahead: Is Happiness in Your Future?
Getting older really gets a bad rap. It turns out you’ll have a lot to smile about. That’s because you’ll actually be happier, despite gray hairs or wrinkles.
A three-decades-long survey confirms it: Your odds of scoring well on a happiness scale increase about 5 percent every decade. There’s one major advantage to getting older (at least for most of us!), and that’s maturity. Researchers suspect that it’s maturity that enriched people’s lives and boosted their happy factor in a recent study -- even when faced with health concerns or lost relationships.
Know what else helped ensure happiness in the study? Education. But you don’t have to wait until you’re gray to get happy. Put yourself on the love-your-life path today with some simple life changes: Sweat it. Yep, working that body of yours turns the fretting volume waaay down. Train yourself to think good thoughts. Your attitude affects your health. Stay out of debt. Money worries will dampen anyone’s spirits.
Want to Get High as a Kite?
We've got a surefire way to keep the happy feelings pouring in. And you don't have to inhale. Just grab your workout shoes and get going.
Research now confirms it: Sustained aerobic exercise can give you a natural high. Researchers recently noted all sorts of endorphin activity when they studied the brain scans of people who'd gone for a 2-hour run. Their emotion- and mood-controlling brain regions were particularly saturated with the feel-good hormones.
But you don't necessarily have to run marathons to boost the natural mood-enhancing chemicals in your blood. In fact, you might not need to run at all. Find out how just 30 minutes of walking can lift your spirits.
Is that glass half empty or half full? Your answer may affect your blood pressure.
Older people who have a sense of self-worth, feel happy and hopeful, and enjoy life have lower blood pressure compared to their more pessimistic peers.
Here's how good feelings can reach all the way into your blood vessels. Good feelings can help reduce levels of cortisol, a stress hormone that's related to high blood pressure. So the benefits of good feelings don't stop at just feeling good. Researchers speculate that the chemical and neural reactions people have to positive thoughts and feelings may help keep all of the body's various systems in balance. So your heart, your arteries -- even your immune system -- benefit.
Have you harnessed the power of positive thinking? Here's how to cope, adapt, and react to life's trials and tribulations in more positive ways:
(1) Try to look on the bright side during times of change.
(2) Make a list of the possibilities and opportunities that could come out of any obstacle
(3) Surround yourself with happy, positive people. They may rub off on you! And strong social ties help you power through the tough times in life.
Great sex -- if it is within a mutually monogamous relationship -- may be one of the ultimate mood boosters.
In fact, semen contains powerful -- and potentially addictive -- mood-altering chemicals, including testosterone, estrogen, prolactin, luteinizing hormone, and prostaglandins. So although sex won't cure depression, it may boost mood if some of these chemicals are absorbed through the walls of the vagina.
Write it down.
Even if journaling doesn't make your love life or your career the epitome of perfection, there are other very real health benefits. It can lower stress, lift depression, boost immunity, and cut down on trips to the doctor.
If being physically active was all it took to keep tweens and teens happy and out of trouble, we'd be tempted to tether our kids to the treadmill. However, we'd have to hop on with them.
Whether it's walking the dog or playing badminton in the backyard, research suggests that joining your kids in activities of their choice not only makes you both healthier, it also boosts their self-esteem. A nationwide survey found that when kids enjoy a variety of activity options -- and their parents play a role -- they are less likely to smoke, drink, skip school, have sex, or use drugs, compared to sedentary 7th- to 12th-graders who watch a lot of TV.
- If you've ever grumbled about a snoring bedfellow robbing you of sleep while he or she blissfully saws logs, here's some surprising news: Snoring bothers snorers, too.
Seems that people with nighttime breathing problems may be 80 percent more likely to develop depression compared to people who breathe (and sleep) soundly through the night. Snoring. Sawing logs. Gasping. Whatever you call it, get it checked out, pronto. You'll both be happier.
As promised, here’s the link for your free session. It will only be available through the month of July so use it soon and use it frequently and enjoy it fully.
I am feverishly working on my book to get it done. I don’t think I’ll be making my August 1 goal, but it will be completed sometime in August. It will include two free sessions and includes not only my thoughts, ideas, suggestions and exercises, but those of a select number of other experts I think you’ll enjoy. Please keep your eyes open for my book launch. For all those who purchase it in the first week of sales, there will be an additional third session as a bonus gift.
Linda Simmon, C.Ht.
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